It's no surprise that being on top exerts a liiiiiiittle more energy than just lying there and noticing all the cracks in your ceiling.
I found a lot of power from being on top. It might be weird to think of cowgirl position as a feminist act, but for me, it finally made me switch my perception of sex. Some sexual positions make me feel like a man is using my body to masturbate into. Being on top, though, makes me the boss. And you should be a boss, too.
So here are twenty six sex tips for when you're in the mood to be on top. Get your pleasure!
1. Grab his wrists to pin him down, so he can’t do anything but lie there and enjoy the view. He’ll instantly get turned on by being controlled, especially if you’re usually the submissive one.2. Rest your hands on his chest. It’ll make it easier for you to keep your balance, and he’ll love feeling your fingers against his skin.
3. When you’re ready to take it up a notch, dig those nails into his chest. A little bit of pain will give him a whole lot of pleasure.
4. Dirty talk. It’s not as difficult as it sounds. Just ask him if he likes how you feel and take it from there. If you’re with the right person, the conversation should come naturally.
5. Touch your breasts. Cup them in your hands while you bounce. Play with your nipples. Do whatever you can to draw his attention to the area.
6. While we’re at it, touch your clit. Not only will he find it sexy as fuck, but you’ll be able to get yourself off. You deserve to orgasm, too, you know.
7. Tilt your head back, toward the ceiling, and act like his dick is the greatest thing you’ve ever experienced. He’ll get turned on by seeing you turned on.
8. Turn around to give him a different view. If he’s an ass man, then he’s going to prefer reverse cowgirl. Even if he isn’t, it never hurts to switch things up.
9. Grab his hands and put them in any position you’d like. On your ass. On your hips. On your tits. It’s your choice.
10. Keep the lights on, so he can see you. There’s no need to feel self-conscious. He wouldn’t be in bed with you if he found you unattractive. You’re the sexiest woman in the world in his eyes.
11. Lean all the way forward, so that your bare chest and his bare chest are touching. He’ll go crazy when he feels your nipples brushing up against his skin as you bounce.
12. Even better, lean forward just enough to put your breast in his mouth. He won’t mind it. In fact, he might even come from it.
13. If you don’t need help balancing, then lean back while you bounce and let him enjoy the view.
14. Do Kegels exercises while he’s inside of you. You’ll enjoy the sensation as much as he does.
15. Slow down. You don’t have to be bouncing like a rubber ball to make him horny. He’ll enjoy any pace you set.
16. Look him in the eyes. It’s the easiest way to increase the intimacy without wearing yourself out.
17. Kiss his neck. Men are just as sensitive in that spot as women are.
18. Speaking of things women like, play with his hair while you move your hips. If you’re gyrating slowly, tenderly run your hands through it. If you’re moving quickly, yank it.
19. If your clothes didn’t come off during foreplay, then make a show of taking your shirt off while you’re riding him. Do it slowly, like you’re performing a strip tease for him. Leave your bra on for a while after that to build the suspense, and then take that off, too.
20. When you get tired and need a break, don’t be embarrassed. Simply order him to get on top of you. That way, you’ll look like a dominant woman who knows what she wants instead of an out of shape couch potato.
21. This is going to sound like common sense, but don’t forget to kiss him smack dab on the lips. As much as he loves feeling your mouth on his chest and collarbone, nothing compares to an old-fashioned lip lock.
22. Grab his hand and suck on one of his fingers. It’ll make him imagine what it would be like to have his cock in your mouth.
23. Pay close attention to his reactions. If a certain move makes him squirm (in a good way), then do it again and again until he can’t take it anymore.
24. Moan out his name. Moan about how much you love his dick. Just moan in general.
25. Be confident. It can be scary being on top, because all of the attention is focused on you, but you can’t let it get to you. Self-consciousness isn’t sexy in the bedroom. Cockiness is. So flaunt your assets.
26. Enjoy yourself. If you’re having a horrible time, your boyfriend isn’t going to get off. He wants you to be just as horny as he is.
