This is very very relatable. No matter how much I note down fancy words, cram the meanings and do whatever to help me remember to apply them, I never seem to recall them when I need to. So, now I channel more energy into my punctuations and my tenses, ensuring my communication is fluent enough.
Whether we like it or not, people will always have their opinions. It’s our duty to decide whether or not we want those opinions to define us. As for me, I would rather have everyone understand me, than only the grammar elites.