A lot of people take rejection too much to heart. The truth of the matter is, it's not the fact that they got rejected that hurts them more but the expectations they had before the rejection. Sometimes you dream everything would go just as you planned and boom, it bursts and hurts and you try to look for how to pin the pain and hurts that you transfer it on others.
Is there anyone on earth without expectations? Even the tiniest bit? We all have expectations and it's on varying degrees. What matters to you won't automatically matter to me. One thing I've noticed with life is that nothing is certain and a lot can change so quickly too. We just have to keep pushing, keep dreaming and hoping life smiles at us.
Don't take it to heart when you feel rejected. You are not bacon, cheese or plantain, so not everyone would like you. Let's face it, not everyone loves these aforementioned items anyway so why are you beating yourself too much all because of acceptance? When everyone likes you then you better start watching your back because something isn't going right. You are either compromising on your standards or you have a lot of unreal people around you.
Like I said, it's the expectations we place around those things or people that hurt the most. What hurts the most too sometimes isn't because someone lied to you but with your expectations in them, you wouldn't think they would imagine you being stupid enough to believe that and of course the denial card they play hurts deeper especially when you already know the truth.
We can't go back to make a brand new start or change the past and we all have ways by which we heal and then look ahead. For most it takes time and everyone need to find their healing process and go through with it. Forgetting doesn't heal us, rather we suppress the pains and hope it goes away, only for it to make us into a ticking time bomb, willing to explode when similar situations arises. Forgiving does the healing...forgive yourself first and only then can you forgive others. Most people find it hard to forgive themselves for making such a terrible decision or having such expectations. They pin it on others and hold that resentment for too long thinking it's the other person they are angry at. You gotta forgive yourself and heal...
Forgiving doesn't mean you have forgotten about it, but it means you have gotten to a point where remembering it doesn't hurt you as deep as it used to be and overtime it becomes bearable. It gives you the strength to move on and know how best to guard your heart further. Yes, it's not easy but there is a difference between hard and impossible. One of my favourite quotes says: "You can live with losing the good fight but you cannot live with not fighting it." There are some things you cannot avoid but to deal with them. Getting hurt is one thing you can never run away from but you can reduce the impact on you.
Thank you for your time.
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