Being a marriage counsellor, I have been asked many times by people if it is okay to spend so much money on a marriage proposal and I always ask the question which is, "What's the main purpose of a marriage proposal?".
A video went viral some months ago where a guy made a grand wedding proposal and at first, I had mistaken it for a wedding ceremony. He went pretty too far and in the end, the girl said "I am sorry, I can't do this." Most of the time, people just want to show off and the whole point is lost. Understand your partner first and know what works for you two. Life isn't that hard. Relationship shouldn't be this washed up.
She ran out of the hall and everyone present to cheer them were left dumbfounded because it's unbelievable that he went to that length without even informing the lady earlier to save himself from embarrassment. I don't know why she said no but everything he did was a complete waste and I can tell that the shame would be too much for him to deal with and he could have saved himself the embarrassment circulating online by just doing the wedding proposal privately or by even understanding his partner first which is a simple step to take in every relationship.
The purpose of the marriage proposal is just to ask for the lady's consent to take the relationship to the next level and I do not see any reason why this should cause a fuss. Some people like show off and that's fine but personally, I would rather do something decent and do something more remarkable to seal out future together when we both get married.
Most of these marriage proposal sometimes put pressure on the fainthearted and they go with the pressure of everyone being there, and they forcefully say yes for the "glam". Some private moments deserves private scenery where you both discuss if you are ready first.
It is a moment that needs privacy, a time that opens the door to the journey of forever that you are knocking on as a guy and to my best understanding, it should be a sacred time for both of you. Celebration can come after she says "yes" and it still shouldn't cause a fuss.
It's not a new thing that after the success of a guy proposing to a lady, many of those relationships do not materialise into a wedding, so why make so much fuss about it initially? We have seen a proper marriage crash, so what's the big deal about wedding proposal?
It's a happy moment for the guy and lady who are determined to truly take things to the next level but everything can happen simply. I don't blame people who spend huge on wedding proposals, sometimes I blame their exposure and the kind of company they keep because they inspire some of these exotic proposal. Social media doesn't help too but all in all... Do you...be you... Some things are not as deep as we make it seem. Spoil her with expensive things afterwards...spoil him too afterwards... It's never a one sided affair.
A billionaire daughter was proposed to and it all happened at the seaside, there were no lights or anything. No third party except for the photographer because they went there for a photo shoot initially... it was simple and successful. Sometimes, we need to ask ourselves, "Who am I trying to impress?" This would solve most of our problems and make us do what's necessary.
Doing it in a simple way doesn't mean the guy doesn't value or love her, I believe he understands what that moment truly means and did it the right way despite having the money to make it bigger. I have so much to say but I guess I would just let it flow in the comment section for anyone who agrees or even contradicts this. Life is a lesson...we are all here to learn.
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