I welcome you to my blog. One thing I have come to realise over the years is that the percentage of people who love you and are only in your life because of what you can offer them is always higher than those who just love you genuinely and will always love you even if those things you can do for them are completely removed from the picture. I saw a video on TikTok the other day; the guy was on a podcast when he said, "To know those who truly love you, remove those things you do for people, and watch how many people will stay back after the favour and help they get from you are removed." "I gave that saying some deep thoughts, and I realised that at least 98 per cent of human beings are users.
Humans are users because once the help and the benefits they get from you are removed, they move on to another place or location where those benefits exist. Once those benefits are removed, you tend to become useless to them, and then whoever offers them that benefit or even more becomes very important and vital to them. I said 98 per cent of humans are users because once the benefits they get from you are taken out, at least 98 per cent of people will leave and just 2 per cent will stay back when the benefits are not there, and these 2 per cent are rare to come by.
Trust me, when you look around you, you will come to realise that the population of people you think love you don't actually love you; they are just in your life to continue enjoying the benefits you bring to the table, and the moment those benefits stop coming, you'll come to realise they only stayed for what they'd gain and not love. The percentage of people that love you for being you is quite small; the bigger percentage loves you for either past gains, present gains or even future gains. One way or another they stand to gain from loving, and that is exactly why they do it.
I will not want to dive too deep, but every love on the planet Earth is conditional; they tend to keep loving you as long as you keep doing the things you do or have hope that you'll do as promised, or they are loving you for the things you have done in the past, and it is only a matter of time before that even stops being a good enough reason to love you. A parent loves you as much as they do based on the condition that you are their child, and if you were not, things would have been completely different. Many partners will keep loving you on the condition that you keep meeting their needs and helping them grow.
I can say I have just a handful of people who I can say care about me and not what I can do for them, while the rest of the population only cares about what I can do for them, and lately since I cannot do those things, many have vanished; some just breeze in to see if the benefits have started coming again, and the moment they discover it has not, they zoom off again. Removing the benefits, you will see who stays.
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