Know Me Before You Judge Me

Greetings to my lovely Hive family, remain blessed as you go through my entry for this interesting contest.

I welcome you to my entry on the 57th (01) week of the Hive Learner's featured post, where I would be sharing my views about judging people before you even get to know them.

You would agree with me that most people judge others facially even before getting to know them better. We all as humans must have fallen for this at one point or the other.

So follow my entry as I share my experience on this matter.

It was during my first year in school, and I had no friends or family members in my new location. I knew It would be a really interesting experience if I had loved ones with me.

Nevertheless, with every new step forward, I believe there are supposed to be some major changes as well. I didn't expect to find new friends so quickly, but as fate would have it, I had gotten a handful of friends barely 2 weeks into arriving at school.

There was this particular friend of mine (Fred) whom I Judged wrongly at first because of the way he usually dresses and behaves. Fred was from Delta State in the southern part of Nigeria (Warri to be precise)

It is popularly observed in Nigeria that people from Warri are very troublesome and violent, because of the kind of area they grew up in. People from this area are known for cultism and criminal activities, but little did I know that these were just all rumors and stories from past activities in that area.

Fred was from this area and he dressed roughly and arrogantly. He had his ears pierced with earrings, and his hair was even dread, making him look more like a hoodlum than a normal human with a good heart.

But that was where I got the whole thing wrong because I began avoiding and refraining from Fred. He was the one who wanted me to be his friend, but I wasn't comfortable being his friend, and I didn't fail to show him that I wasn't comfortable with him.

Fred had a good heart and he understood that I wasn't comfortable with his appearance, so he explained why he dresses and behaves the way he does. I later found out that Fred was a rising and talented musician, who later became the talk of the school.

Fred and I are now very good friends who understand each other. Fred has helped me on so many occasions and situations, both financially and otherwise.

No one likes to be judged based solely on their appearance, but too often we make snap judgments about people before we know anything about them, especially based on their looks. And more often than not, those judgments are wrong.

This is why it’s important to remember that looks can be deceiving, and just because someone looks a certain way doesn’t mean they’re actually the person you assume them to be.

So many times, people have been given a chance despite their looks and have proven themselves to be terrible, and so many times, people who look a certain way have gone on to surprise everyone by being incredible people.

We must always strive to give people the benefit of the doubt and get to know them before we pass judgment.

That way, we can make sure that we aren’t missing out on the chance to meet some truly amazing people just because of how they look.

This happened just recently about 5 months ago, and I said I should share it with you all. I was looking for a computer expert to help take charge of my computer shop while I would be away for a few weeks.

I dropped a notice stating that I was looking for workers who could deliver excellently on the trading and performance of basic computing operations like typing, printing, and common internet-related operations.

A young and beautiful girl applied for the job of my assistant, and she assured me that she would deliver excellent as she claimed she had enough experience for tasks like this.

I reluctantly agreed for her to be in charge since I had no other option, but deep down in my mind I felt this girl would be lazy and careless.

I was correct in my judgment and thoughts because just a few weeks into her working for me I saw a drastic downtrend in the activities and services offered by my institute. Her laziness and unseriousness were very obvious, and I saw it from the first day we met.

Although, they are people saying that we shouldn't judge a book by its cover. Meaning even when we see red flags we should conclude. But to me, it's alright to examine and be sure of your judgment.

There are times when looks must have said it all, but we still ignore them and give them second chances. The bottom line is that looks don't really define a person, and we should get to know others before accusing them.

Thanks for your time here.