Anger is an emotional trait that every human posess. Unfortunately, we can't avoid being angry but we can at least learn how to control it. Personally, I feel being angry can bring a positive or negative change depending on how we go about it..
Looking at the positive side, Let's use parental discipline as a case study ..
When I was growing up as a kid, there were some things that I did that were not pleasing to my parents.. Infact, one of them that I can never forget was when I was asked to fry plantain for dinner .. I cut the plantain as though I was cutting yam instead of the normal way it should be sliced for frying.. And so, after frying, the outer side only was fried but the inside of the plantain was still fresh..
And for someone that always dodged kitchen activities then.. My mum got so angry at me for not paying attention in the kitchen all these while and for commiting blunder in the kitchen when I was asked to fry plantain.. She flogged the hell out of me that day and later supervised me with a cane in the kitchen after showing me with a few plantain how a plantain that is for frying should be sliced.. From that day henceforth, I became an expert in slicing plantain 馃槄
Now, she was displeased at what I did and got so angry at me. She didn't hide her anger because if she did, maybe I wouldn't have an idea on how to slice plantain for frying or even on other things that she corrected me on while growing up. Sometimes parents need to show that they are angry or displeased for the sake of disciplining their children so that they can be well behaved. So in this scenario, anger has been used to bring a positive change.. The goal of the anger was to use it to get something done.
Then looking at the negative side, when we allow our anger to control us, It becomes disastrous. It can ruin our relationship with the people around us, it can also make us to make irrational choices while making important life decisions. Any act done with anger can never go well.. When we burn with much anger, we become harmful to everyone around us. The words that come out of our mouth when angry can hurt whomever we tell it to and can leave a sour feeling that can never be forgotten. Once these hurtful angry words are said, It can never be withdrawn and later on when the anger subsides, regrets come ..
Again, when we allow anger take hold of us nothing good comes out from it.. It puts our mental state in great chaos. Personally, when I'm angry with someone and live with the anger for a long time without letting the person know how I feel, I feel like I'm poisoning myself for my offender to live.. Getting angry and living with it for a long time can really cause a lot of harm to our thoughts and actions.
So to cool off from the anger, I pray for my offender. I mean I can't pray for you offended me right? But it works like magic for me.. Trust me!
In conclusion, It's important to know that anger is not wrong neither is it right, it's just a feeling that can be controlled when we put our minds to it..
This is my entry to the week26edition01 of the hivelearners contest titled "ANGER". Feel free to participate.