Sometimes we do have this mindset that friendship will be one of those things that will stay the same no matter what, but to your own surprise, life sometimes prove you wrongs, telling you that people change and change is constant things that happened in life. One of the thing that easily change people is money and power. That's why i never imagine success could be something that will come in between me and my long closes friend called "Ahmed"
Sincerely what happened tought me more about life, people , growth and relationships that i expected. It was life a joke because this is a friend that's just like my blood and decided to change all of sudden. I've heard a one time situation back then where a friend distance himself from his friend just because of success, but i never believe this kind of thing could happened to me as well.
At first, i thought it was just my imagination that it's not happening for real, but over time, i realize i'm in reality because everything change. Me and my friend can't do in a day without checking on each other, either by chats or by calls, but all of sudden when my friend got opportunity to started working where they were paying him 1.5million every single month, using official car and staying in official house. Before i know things change, calls reduce, our chats became shorter, and excuses started piling up. Before when i call my friend, even if he's busy and unable to pick my calls, he will definately return my calls immediately he see my missed calls, but now if i call my friend, he won't pick, and when he's less busy, he won't bother to call me back.
I didn't quickly realize this on time, I tought maybe he's truly busy, then I decided to shift my attention from calls to chats, to my surprise, chats even worst because, my friend can be for days without opening my WhatsApp messages, the frustrating part of it is that, sometimes i'll see my friend online, i'll send him messages, yet he will still ignore me and i'll even try call him on WhatsApp, and he won't pick up my calls. It's get to some points and i started asking myself if our friendship was tied to convenience or if something had really shifted. You know nevigating through that period wasn't easy, i had to remind myself that change is constant anybody can change, and sometimes it has nothing to do with us.
Though i won't dispute the fact that i've not been guilty of friendships sometimes in the past. There was a time, i also got so focused on chasing opportunities that i unintentionally pulled back from friends for some moment, then people around me thought i have changed too, they thought maybe because i now have something that got my attention that i can no longer have time for them again. Then when it happened, it wasn't because i didn't care but it was because my direction in life was different at that point. Looking back to that moment then, i realize how important balance is and success feel lighter when you still keep your people close. Later i realize and adjust myself and things come back to normal, it's only take a little time before everything come back to normal.
These experience tought me that change is inevitable, and we're the determinant of that change because there's nothing we want to do that we can't do unless we don't make the decision. Also understanding and communication matters sometimes and sometimes friendships grow apart and that's Okay. Other time we just need to remind each other that the bond still matters.
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