Marriage is a partnership in which there are two members, who set the guidelines, the rules and show the interests. The important thing is that these rules are very clear from the beginning, that there is communication, agreements between the two, because if not, then the relationship can fail. Your text leaves me thinking about many things regarding power relationships in a couple, but I think that every marriage is a different world and everyone knows what they want. Greetings and thank you for sharing your experience with us.