You should do that and be speedy when you see these flags(ion know if it’s red anymore) but I think we do have this mechanism that tells us something ain’t right.
Most times we give love forgetting that we also need much of that love. I was the type raised with pure drama(not the loving type of fam) but still thought I was missing out on love due to the type of family I grew up in. But man, I really wasn’t missing much because each time I gave love to people with the expectation of it being reciprocated… I never did get a tiny ounce back, instead I usually got dealt the bad hand.
Now the problem isn’t about giving love instead it’s a lack that I thought I had and needed to get from others. Which I realized was the wrong approach. But once I only give without expectations, and in situations I know I won’t be doing too much that it might cost me my peace and quiet. Going extra or hurting myself just to see others happybecame a taboo. There are situations where you don't have a choice because of how important the person is to you but going extra is not something you do for everyone you meet.
RE: Redefinition