Self doubt and fear are two of the most crippling things you will ever overcome in life. They can literally destroy the possibility of a good life. But, how do you overcome what really is a dialogue that is being constantly told to you on a daily basis.
Rumination imagine a world without it....it would drastically change the world we live in today. If we removed rumination and that of self doubt and fear. We would see a vastly differently world unfold in front of our eyes.
So how do you overcome self doubt....
Step 1 - Acknowledgement.
You need to acknowledge the doubt or fear that you are having and face it and give it air to breathe. Why? Because suppressing it is like trying to hide a pink elephant in a room. It's always there, it's always going to be with you. Unless you first acknowledge and come to terms with the fact that you have self doubt and fear holding you back.
Step 2 - The Small Step Action Plan
I call this the small step action plan, because that's what it is. If you have first acknowledged the fear then you need to take one small step to start to challenge it. Lets say you have a fear of public speaking. You first must go into an empty room and start speaking, speak loudly, start speaking to yourself. This would be the first small step. The next would be introduce a mirror and speak to yourself. It sounds silly but its all about building confidence rather than plunging head first.
Step 3 - The big plunge
Once you have taken all the small steps necessary (I suggest writing down as many as you can think of) it's time to take the plunge. But....with one catch. Not in any preplanned way. You need to do this spontaneously ....know you are going to do it at some stage and when the opportunity is right just do it. I.e you have a fear of public speaking...wait until that moment that calls for a speech in front of the dinner table and be the first to get up and make it. Why, because this allows you not to have any time to think about it....thought is the death of all action.
THE KEY TO GETTING PAST SELF DOUBT AND FEAR IS SIMPLY BY DOING.
Sometimes, however you need to trick yourself into actually doing it by not giving any thought. If you can apply the above rules - you will be able to overcome any self doubt or fear.
Getting past these two things are the secret to a happy, fulfilled life and you can join Frank Sinatra in singing
"Regrets, I've had a few...but then again too few to mention..."