RE: RE: Positive thinking, or Breaking the transmission chain
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RE: Positive thinking, or Breaking the transmission chain

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I can definitely say that the (South)eastern Europeans accurately fit under the chart. And yes, issues of our parents pass on to us and our children, but if a person is willing to change and work on himself/herself it is possible to break out of the vicious cycle BUT several generations have to grow up, look back at their forefathers and see their mistakes in order not to repeat them.

For example (it's a true story)My grand grand grand grand grandfather was a rich and greedy man whose greed made my grand grand grand grandfather feel incapable of earning respect of his father, this turned him to gambling and with course of the years he managed to gamble all his family had.

This made my grand grand grandfather wrathful and proud, he was so angry at his father that he didn't speak to him or other people and that had impact on his son (grand grandfather) who had to work hard with him in order to secure a small farming estate in a poor country. And when he got a son he taught him everything he knew about farming, but he went to exile into Germany and made himself a retirement when he returned. Here lies another problem. With a fortune he started building houses in his town so he could show off to others who didn't have such material wealth. He built three of them for my father and uncle, but he didn't raise them correctly. He even treated them as other people, thinking of them as dumb and undervaluing their opinion because he was the "wisest".

My father left home realizing his mistakes, but still continued his ways (a bit softer tho). He moved to another country, started a new life and got married. Over the years those three houses became abandoned and as people left the town their value decreased.

This left my grandfather alone with the walls. He realized his mistake, but late. My father though made same mistake but a bit smarter. He never trusted that I would accomplish anything of mark, but he never told me. And the worst thing was that he always doubted me until I did something remarkable, but only temporarily...

Now I'm a university student of applied computer science and on the way to become the first with university degree in my family, and I was laughed by the grandfather because I couldn't use a scikle to trim tall grass on the field...

But I really don't care as I have learned from their mistakes and I will teach my children to do the same..

Wow I've took a bit too much space... I just wanted to tell you that you had a great post that made me start writing...