The verbal IQ of course was very low (102)

Isn't that above verage, if it's an IQ-based score? cuz 100 = average. Hardly 'very low' lol

Honestly your experience sounds like my experience with hairdressers. My whole life I'd go to one, then never return after a dissatisfying result. Round and around i'd go trying to find the one 'local' i'd return to. Never did because they just couldn't get that all I wanted was the same thing I have now (a messy mop) just a bit shorter.

So eventually I stopped going entirely and I've been cutting my own hair for, what, 8 years + now? I think there's some kind of metaphor in there somewhere.

My sister has been searching for her diagnosis in England for about that much time, 8 years or so. She's been frequently misdiagnosed, files randomly lost by doctors, referred to this person, then that person, then circulated round to the first person, lost files again, year after year after year.

First it was Bipolar, then OCD, then ADHD, Then a cocktail of the lot, then borderline personality disorder, back to the other ones, the latest is autism, which I'm not convinced about as she went private and I think they just affirmed a self-assessed claim that she think she's autistic, but doesn't seem to match in my opinion.

What do I know, you say? Well, apparently more than the fckin 'doctors'!

I could talk for hours about this stuff given her experiences and my mum's who also has PTSD among other things. I'm actually the only 'normal' one in the family. Not that I don't have my own private issues I never let out, but I at least function in society in a way that most people consider me normal, albeit antisocial.

Here in China is even worse. They don't even believe in things like mental illness. Hell, they barely understand physical issues. My wife's eczema specialist demonstrated little more than 'I don't actually know what exzema is but I need this job'.

God, this world. I'll stick to Google and Reddit lol.

Edit: I suppose to defend the docs, like you say here, it is pretty damn hard to objectively diagnose these things without reasonable doubt, when there's so much overlap, bias, updated definitions, and so forth. For me, I know there's some stuff going on with me from a life brought up in a completely broken family, but as long as I can function, I'll deal with it myself, it's just too nuanced and complicated that I know no answer will satisfy me, whether they affirm or deny one way or the other.