Sometimes works in a different way, if you think about partner or best friend. What would you not tolerate for someone to do/act to them? And then you treat yourself like your best friend. If you are not your best friend who is?

Romanian version: daca nu te tratezi la acelasi standard ca si cineva apropiat, ce nu ai tolera ca si comportament fata de cineva drag tie? Tindem sa fim mult mai toleranti fata de abuz catre noi insine decat fara de prieteni, daca asta e cazul, trateaza te tu insuti ca si cum ai fi cel mai bun prieten al tau si creste standardůl.

Damn. Trying to think in two different languages simultaneously make it funny.