Hi guys!
I just got to know about this platform few days ago and I must say I love it cos it's one important community we ladies love to be part of so we could learn things about love, sex, marriage, relationship etc.
Sequel to that, I'll be talking about COURTSHIP. No one is a custodian of knowledge; meaning no one knows everything so we learn from each other each passing day. So on that note feel free to share your views and opinions.
COURTSHIP is the act of wooing in love; solicitation of woman to marriage. Courtship is the process of getting to know your supposed wife and husband before getting married.
For some Sundays now we've been talking about marriage in our Sunday school and few Sundays ago we were talking about that so out of curiosity I asked this question just for clarity sake and to be on the know about it.
In that lesson, many things were discussed and one part I got interest was the part where our teacher said it's best to pray and hear from God on who to marry before taking a bold step.
So the question I asked was; having heard from God on whom to marry is it right or proper to be in courtship with your supposed wife and husband before getting married 馃
Trust me people said so many things in regards to the question but none of them could give me a sincere and genuine answer and we battled that question for an hour and 30 minutes yet nothing.
I mean in my view I think it's proper to get to know who you're about spending your entire lifetime with. I know characters and all of that may be hidden in the process but then it's pertinent to know each other well and see if you would be able to deal with each other excesses, character and weaknesses.
My parents marriage is good, I won't say it's perfect cos no marriage is perfect. Apart from them not being rich, wealthy, bouyant and financially stable, I love and admire their marriage a lot. But then there are some things my parents does and sometimes I wish they had courted before getting married.
In all of that, they still have ways in which they address such issues and try to help each other. They're christians and believers and they work according to the word of God which has helped them.
So my dear brothers and sisters what are we saying? Shouldn't we get to know people we want to spend the rest of our lives with huh? I mean one could have a mouth odour, can't cook and do house chores etc.
Inasmuch as a perfect marriage is solely on the grounds that each of you should be believers, christians and children of God. The two parties have a part to play in order to make marriage work and being in a relationship before taking the bold step is one part that can make it work.
Also, my pastor made me to understand that while courting, there are some things that shouldn't be done to avoid problems of any kind. He made mention that having a sexual relationship should not be part of why we're courting.
He also said washing clothes, cooking, cleaning the house and doing all sort and manner of things like that shouldn't come in. But rather he emphasized that sincerity, honesty, transparency and forgiveness should be what we portray.
Well with everything I've said here, I don't know about you but as for me my dear sisters, I go Sabi my future hubby, court am well well before I say yes I do. As I dey so like this I no like stress and wahala abeg, so we go try and leave the rest to God.馃槉
Meanwhile, I still dey wait for that Somebody's Son馃槀. Please if you see him anywhere tell him I'm waiting ooo. May God bless all potential boyfriends and soon to be husbands for we the single ladies.
Thank you very much for reading and stopping by. Please feel free to comment, criticize and correct where necessary. Do have lovely day.
