Couldn’t care less is the best thing ever happen to me. Why I said is the best thing? There is no stress, sleep well,eat well and life are more productive. We will move forward and not backward. The past will always stays at our back. At the beginning, it was a heartache for me. But it healed so fast after a month or two. Yes, its not worth it. Finally I realize how stupid I am. All I can ask now was for the separation process to be legal. A.S.A.P!
No wonder my mom can leave my real father after she found him cheating. My mom will never wait for 30 years to realize that. She immediately asked for a divorce even I was just 1month old. I need to have her strength. Never let a man bully or cheat us. They will play victim, so let them be. Thats the best they can afford to do.
I knew one woman and a mother that had to stay in a marriage that full of lies and abusive partner for nearly a decade. Even from the beginning, she knew she was the second wife, (maybe)because the first wife was seriously ill with cancer. I wonder, how can I take a man from a wife that was seriously ill? Or maybe she didn't know about it. Maybe!
By the time the first wife had passway,, this woman from being single, suddenly she become a mother of 4 step-children . Is it her choice? Maybe she didnt know? Because if she knew about it, how can she let a man courted her while knowing his wife was sick and at the end of her life battling with cancer? If the first wife knew that her husband was busy courting the second wife, while she was bedridden and sick, Im sure she had curse them. Never play with a sick dying person prayers and wishes. Its gonna slap you real hard in the face when karma hit you.
Because of both stories above, we can describe the different between 2 woman and a mother. Both had their own stories. Both had gone through their hardest time, and we as the children will make our parents as an example. I was lucky my mom got married to my step-father until his last breath. My late step-father was a responsible man ever. He never treat me differently from my other siblings.
What about the woman and the mother that I was written above? Well, after married she had to look after 4 step children and 4 children of her own. That was her kindness and strength that only some woman can do. In reality, while I was talking to her before, she said it was like a sudden shocked to her but she can't do anything once she got married to the man and she is not even local. So she can't do much for being afraid if she break the law or the authority.
But i know she loved them as much as her own children. The best things was, all her step-children had all their success in life, with a lovely family, with a god job and etc. I guess their late mother did look after them from the other side. It because the other 4 children aren't so lucky like their step-siblings.
The conclusion of my stories was, Im in my 40's and with children myself, I will take the good from what I learned from this 2 wonderful woman. Be kind, be strong, never care less and never beg. No more begging after this. Because my mom didnt begged my father. She left him on the spot and she didnt let me know anything about him until I was 17 years old, accidentally I got to meet my real father.
My mother wont be the second for any man, she will never ruined others because she knows its not worth it. If my mom knew she was cheated by a man that had a sick wife, Im pretty sure she had left him at the beginning. So, i want to be like my mom, a tough woman, always uses her brain accordingly to situation and let her heart decide which is bad and which is good.
Dear MYSELF, said Goodbye the OLD me and say Hello to the NEW me. I will not let anybody hurt me without my permission. All the sarcastic, harsh word or negative energy that coming from others are not welcome to my doorsteps. Even a cheater and liar will disguise and dress well now. So be careful,do not choose your friends, your bf/gf, your other half for their appearance and sweet talk. There was never A Good Man can admit that they are good. Unless he is a delusional freak. Beware and stay safe. I rather stay single than having such drama.
