Want to know just five things that make up a good (spousal) relationship? I will list them from my life experience. This year my husband and I celebrated 33 years of relationship...and yes...it is a good spousal relationship. At least from my point of view and my state of mind 馃槣.
I think we have been able to get this far because first of all we respect each other, from every point of view. Mutual respect is the basis of any healthy relationship.
Admiration is as necessary as respect. You should feel admiration for the person you have chosen to accompany you. Admire him or her as a human being, as a husband or wife, father or mother, son or daughter, brother or sister, grandchild, friend. Admire his or her professional skills and achievements. The more admiration you have for the person, the more respect and love you will feel.
In my opinion, having different characters is a positive thing. The more different the ways of being, the better the understanding (opposites attract). In our case we are very different, but that makes us complement each other's faults and virtues. What one does not have, the other makes up for and in the end the mix is perfect...or almost, because perfect is boring 馃槣. Conflicts are the basis of development, they bring processes of readjustment and thus the relationship constantly evolves without falling into monotony.
Despite the differences the marriage must have at the end of it all the same goals in life. They do not have to be exactly the same, but there must be harmony so that the road is less heavy and pleasant to travel.
Finally, you have to laugh. Not because you bring it last is the least important, on the contrary. The person next to you must make you laugh, a sincere laughter, from the soul. The day that laughter dies out, you can be sure that love is over.
Text and imagen by me. I use DeepL for translation because my English is very bad 馃き
