With each passing day, we meet people who may eventually influence our way of life either in a good way or a bad way. As we spend time with new people, even we as the main character can't predict how long we'll have those new people around us, and to what extent. After all, the popular saying goes that 20 kids can never play together for 20 together. At some point, they'll have to deviate from each other. At some point, ghosting is inevitable.
The first time I experienced some form of ghosting was when I was just 10. I was supposed to write the Common Entrance exam in Primary 5 and had already paid for it at my school. Some months before the exam, the state NUT had a meeting and concluded that Primary 5 students shouldn't write Common Entrance via their school since Primary 5 wasn't the terminal class in Primary school (it was Primary 6 back then). Due to that, my registration fee was returned, and my parents concluded that I had fully completed my primary education without skipping any class.
When I resumed for Primary 6, our class shrank. Apparently, some of my friends who also had their registration fee returned went ahead to register for Common Entrance in other schools and passed the exam. So while I was resuming to a new session in Primary school, they were resuming to a new session in Secondary School. Initially, it made no difference to me as I didn't know the significance, but as months rolled by, I felt the full weight of it.
Honestly, it wasn't planned as we were still too young to think towards that, but I gradually noticed that my friends who were now in secondary school no longer wanted to associate with me. As in, they now have new friends, secondary school friends that they mingle with, and I was gradually phased out. Though I couldn't really understand why it happened then, I know I felt hurt by the reality that I no longer mattered to them. It was when I grew older that I then understood their actions.
Look, ghosting happens, and in some cases, it is not because one is proud or arrogant; it is just a case of nature taking its course. There are tens of people that I have met and had a good rapport with who are no longer in the picture. A lot of things can cause that, but then time and chance also play a part. When I was in higher institution, I had people that I rolled with regularly, people that we ate from the same pot, but we are no longer on talking terms. Is it because of a misunderstanding? No. However, one thing I have noticed about humans is that we sometimes roll with people not because they are perfect for us, but because they are who life chose to tag us along with at that particular time. And when it is all said and done, we find our way to move on without them because they never fit into our lives in the first place.
In the end, as we grow, we instinctively select to move forward with those who add value to our lives while shedding those whose patterns don't fit ours. It is brutal; it is uncompromising. But, if we look at it deeply, it is inevitable. It has happened to us all at one time or the other. It will continue to happen.
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