The ability to listen to what people are saying is different from hearing what they are saying. Listening takes a lot of skills and paying attention to details for you to be able to listen very well. You might hear but not listening. Discovering that they are two different thing helps you identify which one you are doing. Sometime we hear people and the other time we listen. It's all depends on what comes first and why we are doing so. While to others, they can listen no matter how long the story or talk might be. They hear you from your heart just by listen to you, the pay attention to every details that comes out, including the tone of your voice, facial expression, body languages, and frequency in speech. All these are what a good listener, pay good focus on.
In some cases and situation of our life, we want people who can listen to us as we talk, but unfortunately we only have people who just hear what we are saying and forget it the following seconds. You might want people to listen to you just for you to talk, say your mind and let the person communicate back, the person might not be able to come up with the best feedback, or response, but ability to pay attention to what you are saying and communicate effectively to that which you are saying gives you a better relief about the whole situation.
From my childhood, or should I say, right from the time I could decode, what good and bad is, and when someone is in good mood or bad mood, since ever then, I have a way of being a good listener, a lot of person come to just for them to talk about their, bothering issues, matters they feel it is difficult for them to digest, in many cases, their secrets. And I have hold confidence of those secrets.
Therefore I have good skill in listing. I don't just hear people talk, I listen to Every details that comes along with the talk and they discussion, while discussion is going on, I can predict the end of the discussion and where it is heading to, but I don't conclude before the person that is having the discussion with me. I have good communication skill which have been helping me to navigate situations like this. Somehow I am blessed with giving advice, guidelines, to create solution, and help people navigate hard times. I most time achieve this with Good communication skill and good listening. When you pay detail to everything an individual is saying or discussing with you, you will understand and believe with me that, before one can work up to you to talk about their personal matters, it is either it's becoming overwhelming for them or they believe you can contribute to solving the matter.
However, In the other way around it is not like that in my case. In situation where I want people to hear me out, end of not having anyone to listen to me, brother I discovered that they hear me just for the moment when I try to ask deeper questions they all get confused after asking me did I say something like that which can and always discouraging to continue the conversation. At the end of the day discovered that they just hear me I wasted my time, that it would have been more better I struggle with my matters and try to overcome them just by myself.
