Q: can not having a dad / father figure affect you as a grown male .
Or is having one overated ?
I find not having a healthy relationship with my father has left me with no example to follow
When i was a child i was made to beleive a man was my blood father .
At the age of five my mother divorced my " dad"
After years of drugs alcahol and physical abuse all of wich i witnessed , recently i was told he had to stay away from me because he strangled me when i was 4 wich led me to live with my grandma most of the days in a week .
At age 6 mum met my stepfather who had two sons from a previous failed attempt at holy matrimony .
So heres where it gets complicated .
At the age of 12 after 6 years of this new situation i was told who i regarded as my dad was is not my blood , he was technically my first stepfather .
And she proceeded to tell me my real father lives in south africa and has a wife and two daughters now .
For some reason this led to me never accepting the new stepfather but i took to one of his sons like my own brother .
Now at age 25 i still feel im missing something yet have had the chance there all along
My apparent real fathers name is SEAUN ROMANI .. He lives in durban s.a and i have tryed to message him just to find out WHO he is
WHAT is his story .
Thankyou for reading
If you had a similar experiance i would love to hear your thaughts and comparisan to give me some help .
