To be a parent is not an easy task; it is very challenging and, at the end, rewarding, depending on how parents are able to raise their kids and how these kids use the knowledge their parents have invested in them.
Without being told, it is natural for parents to protect their kids from any pain or discomfort. The love mothers have for their children is, without doubt, enough to offer a smooth life for them, making sure all hardships standing in their way are taken care of.
Using the rich as an example, but not in any way to condemn, the wealthy pave the way smoothly for their kids, removing challenges that these kids would face from a young age. But the honest truth is that trying to protect them from the pains that come with facing challenges is not having their best interest in mind. Sometimes, removing all these obstacles doesn't give the kind of life we desire for our children in the future.
No parent wants their children to go through what they have been through in life. Personally, I'm yet to be a mom, and the fear of how the country is, where it is going, and how it will end is enough for parents or future parents to want to shield their children from whatever they are going through currently. I see parents who reproduce and feel that is the end; some even feel they have given that child the highest privilege by bringing them into the world.
That is a privilege, but the mentality of leaving them to grow up on their own in the street is a no for me. As a parent, you don't need only money to give your children the best life; the little you can do can go a long way. Just because you were deprived of going to school by your parents while growing up, that doesn't mean your own kids shouldn't receive education. These are vital challenges parents need to consider and provide for their children's needs in every little way.
As a future mother, I will make sure my kids are provided with all the necessities I am entitled to provide for them, but when they get to a certain age, even if I have enough for them, I will still allow them to step out and experience what life is all about. With that, they will learn to value what they have with the knowledge and experience they gain outside.
Sometimes, enforcing things on our children ends up spoiling everything in the end. Just because I have a company, I will not force my child to become CEO because I don't want him to face any struggle outside since I have already paved the way. That's a no for me. There is no harm in allowing that child to step out of his comfort zone and pursue what he is interested in.
Whatever he encounters in the process would be a lesson for him to keep growing. There are important things he or she will learn while going through these difficulties; the complexities that come with life won't just be words to him but an experience that has shaped him and instilled values in his or her life. Only when one has failed will he or she learn from failure and do better next time. Without this knowledge, bouncing back from failure becomes difficult.
Children who grow to adulthood without experiencing adversities are often unprepared when faced with the difficulties of life. So, if I have so much in the future, I would still allow my kids to face the world and give them all the parental love, support and encouragement they need to face the complexities of life. They should be able to learn the difference between support and taking up responsibilities.
