Here in my part of the world we do say something like, sorry has male and it has females. More like, there's a way you say sorry and everyone knows you mean it and there's a way you say sorry and everyone knows you're just saying it for saying sake. Now, when we talk about words and the things we say, it really requires that we give it much thought before speaking, especially when the matter on ground is one that requires us to contribute wisely.
Also, like they do say here, words if said already cannot be unsaid. Ad they say that because words can hurt. To the person saying it it might just be a joke or a random thing being voiced out and it will offend the other party involved. And in all honesty, it might not be intentional. Also, we are different people, some people know how to hear you even beyond what you say, some give deep meanings to things that you say, ask for that reason we need to be careful with words.
And maybe because of that and more that didn't add, a lot of people have gone silent. Nobody wants to be misheard, misinterpreted and all. That's what you see people chat and delete a message before the other person sees it, or better still they edit it, just so it wouldn't feel somehow to the other party. You also see people deleting their comments online or deleting a video they've made to address s thing earlier. I've done that too, and it's not because I have said something that bad or had bad intentions, but because I don't want to be misinterpreted or dragged into unnecessary arguments.
But then, keeping mute ain't the solution at all. Even if our opinion feels different we should share it and allow for others to do same too, allow for others to disagree and all. That's how we learn. Every single word, comment, opinion, and all shouldn't be seen as an attack. A lot of people we say are keeping mute today actually have things to say, maybe much more better things to share and contribute but they fear what might come out of it, public opinion, being misunderstood and all.
I'm not saying we should go ahead and say all sorts of things in the name of, I can voice out my win opinion too, nah. I'm saying we can say what's in our minds too after brooding over it and finding the most respectful way to put it down. We can be honest without being hurtful.
Now, to some of us who always pay attention to words being said, I think its best we try to improve too, in the sense that when we hear a thing or read something and it sounds offensive or somehow to us, we can simply ask the person what they really meant before attacking them, that way they can better explain and if possible rephrase their words.
And to some of us that think we know how to talk/speak too, we should always know that there are people who know how to listen. We should be careful of our use of words, and also correct ourselves when someone feels hurt or offended by what we say.m, instead of being/becoming defensive.
So, for the speakers and the listeners, we both need to be careful and respectful while expressing ourselves. And we should as well be mature enough to know that nobody gets it right all the time, it can be your turn tomorrow, so be respectful and considerate today.
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