Hot tempered people are not even the type to be close with at all. Because they can't do and undo, and at the end of the day they blame it on their anger, mood and such. If you've worked/walked with some of them you will agree with me to how unpredictable that can be. That can just have a mood swing anytime, anything can just infuriate them and they will just burst out.
And I'm saying this because I've come in contact with people like that, some will tell you "that is just me." I will be like..."What!" You call this, you. How can this be you, I was even talking to a lady just few weeks ago and was telling her about the way she reacted to something, I told her if I had gave her the way she gave it to me, the back and forth of words we were having online would keep on going and might lead to something else, guess what she said... "You of all people should know my temper by now." That was what she said.
But me, I wouldn't have it. Your hot temper should be tamed, you should learn to control yourself, your temper isn't a free pass to hurt or talk down on others. It is a problem, you know you have it, then work on it. Or, is having a hot temper something to glory in....I don't get it.
And I as a person have learnt to keep my distance from such people. Because they are hard to be with nsd navigate around. And after trying my best to make them see and work on what they already know they are(hot tempered) and they refuse to change then I give my distance. And you can't tell me that I don't care, because I've already done my best, and its best for me to step back instead of always getting caught up in their angers. If a person is not showing signs and willing to change, we can't do nothing.
One of my closest pals as well have that issue, and even though it wasn't that convenient for me because of how close we are, I just had to keep my distance. Later, when someone who's way older got to know about it since she's not seeing us talk and do the way we do before, she called us both and talked to us, while talking she said something in Yoruba, she said, "Toyo, You should know it for her."
In short, she's telling me that its her character and I should have known it for her, and me I wouldn't even have it. I countered her respectfully. I told her if it was another character or attitude, maybe I would have looked away and not really mind, but this anger and temper of a thing, its a no-no for me. I cannot know such a character for a person, you know you have this flaws, you know how it is affecting you and people around you, you know how people might start to look you later, even you know that when it starts you can't control yourself or know the extent of the words you can say or the harm you can do, what's best for you is to take responsibility, and work on it. Be a better person and don't blame your actions on something you can work on.
Having hot temper isn't a normal thing, because it can damage and destroy. But as a society, we can help by providing some sort/level of support, advice and all. And such people should take responsibility for their actions, they cannot blame it on their temper, and even if they do, at the end of the day, the temper they are blaming it on is still there's, so they should take responsibility for it.
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