Greetings everyone, and welcome to my blog. It is another beautiful day to listen to the Word of God through His servant. I pray that today has been a blessing in God’s presence as we take time to reflect together.
There is a popular saying many of us grew up hearing: “A promise is a debt.” Promises are usually made out of love, care, and good intentions. However, some people make promises carelessly—speaking without fully considering the responsibility that comes with their words.
From my own experiences and observations, I have learned that once sincere promises or vows are made, keeping them can become difficult. This is not always due to bad intentions or a change of heart, but because making a promise often feels like trying to control the future. In truth, the only time we truly have power over is today—not yesterday and not tomorrow.
Because of this, I have learned to appreciate surprises more than promises. If you wish to do something for me, it is better not to announce it—simply surprise me. No matter how small the gesture is, the joy will be genuine because it comes without pressure or expectation.
Life brings many responsibilities, especially financial ones, that can suddenly interrupt our plans. Think about a child: can a child reason the way an adult does? Can they understand that a parent may not be financially able to fulfill a promise at a certain time? Often, they cannot.
When a child is outspoken, there is space for explanation and understanding. But when a child is quiet, shy, and unable to express their pain, their hurt becomes hidden—unspoken yet deeply felt. A broken promise can then become a silent wound.
In every situation, it is wiser to turn good intentions into surprises instead of promises. Life is unpredictable, and circumstances can change at any moment. Do not allow yourself to feel pressured into making promises to either adults or children, because promises can become emotional debts. And when those debts are left unpaid, they may turn into disappointment, bitterness, or silent pain.
Thank you for reading.