This may seem like an easy question on witch most of the males reading this post think already know the answer, or think they can easily get the answer just by asking a woman.
It's not that simple and here's why:
First of all, never listen to a woman about what she wants in a man, many people tried this and in my opinion most of them failed and this is why:
A woman's way of understanding what she wants and woman's way of understanding her own psychology is not the same understanding that a guy needs to have of her psychology. In other words, a woman is more in the moment and she does not necessary care to analyze the mechanics of how love or attraction works.
The psychological reason on why women want this is because women are more social then men and they are driven by relationships, emotions and social interactions a lot more than guys are.
Neuroscience shows that physiologically a woman's brain is more adapted to relationship building and is more adapted to verbal cognition and a man's brain is wired towards logical analysis. A woman is always caring free flowing spontaneous, emotional and nurturing and this is why they are more social then men are.
Q: What do women want?
A: They want everything.
Q: What do men want?
A: They want everything.
Who would say no to everything ?.. The real question is what can she/you get?
Because this post is about what women want I am going to give you the quick and easy answer:
The main thing every woman wants is deep emotional intimacy and the more you can check on the following list the better:
Detachment from a woman does not mean you are an asshole. Being detached simply means that you are a man who has purpose in his life. The biggest mistake I see in guys is that when they finally get the girl they want; they make that woman the center of their universe. Sure this may seem ok at first but from the perspective of a woman that guy does not have anything else important going on in his life and they will feel just like a prize/object that was won by someone who can't handle more or does not want more out of life.
The main point I am trying to make is that woman want men who are a bit dangerous, a man that challenges them and is able to stir up some emotions. Women want a man who goes out there in the world and tries to make stuff happen and not a guy who goes to a 9-5 job has sex with them and falls asleep, there is no emotional stimulation there... nothing. Sure this may be ideal for the guy but will never be ideal for the girl.
Let's talk about sex
Women love this and they will never admit this to you because is socially unacceptable for them to do so as they have a lot of social conditioning that gives them a lot of limiting beliefs around sex. This is very important because If you are able to attract her and provide this (deep intimate dirty sex) on a regular basis all of the other points I have described don't really matter that much. And we can see these type of relationships thriving but as a recap the main points a man needs to have are:
Other points that women want but are not necessary a deal breaker are :
Some men have good looks, money, social status and they can promise loyalty to a woman but they are only focused on the tip of the Iceberg and this why so many relationships fail. As humans we need emotional stimulation. Security and social status can be.. " nice " to have at first but in the long run these are just not enough to maintain a healthy relationship.
Ultimately, what a woman wants is the full package and it's very interesting because a lot of times it may seem that women are after the good looks or security or social status, but as a guy you don't want to attract a woman based on these factors because you will end up playing the role of the provider for her. She is going to like that on a logical level but the feminine energy inside her is going to want the guy that is able to stimulate her emotionally and that will not be you.
Don't blame girls for doing this, but blame yourself because you attracted her based on stupid factors like money, good looks, social status and maybe a promise of loyalty.
What I recommend is building yourself up as a man in every category as much as you can because this is the best strategy you can possibly have to attract the type of people you want in your life.
Dare to want more !
-Namaste
