Mis hijos apenás se llevan un año de diferencia (12 y 13 años) siendo Sammy la mayor, el primer encuentro con su hermanito siendo apenás una bebita fue muy gracioso, ella no paraba de tratar de ver al bebé, la primera noche que el bebé durmió en casa, se despertó varias veces llorando (normal en un bebé) y cuando sucedía como la nena dormía también en la misma habitación se despertaba y nos costaba volver a dormirla porque sólo quería estar con el bebé.
A medida que han ido creciendo se han unido mas, ella siempre ha sido protectora de su hermano, lo apoya al 100%, sin embargo hubo un tiempo en el que ella sentía y expresaba abiertamente celos por su hermano, por mi parte trataba de sentarme uno en cada pierna y les decía este lado es tuyo y este otro de tu hermano, los besaba y abrazaba a ambos.Sin embargo mi esposo por otro lado se desvivía por nuestro hijo por ser varón y compartía con el actividades deportivas, aunque siempre ha amado a nuestra hija siempre me ha dejado a mi algunos aspectos de su crianza por ser niña entonces por mi parte trataba de compensar a mi niña con mucho afecto y actividades juntas.
Hello friends, back to the maternity community to share experiences with my children. Having siblings is synonymous of complicity, of laughter, but also of anger either for games, toys or anything else where the children are displaced by the other, the affection of the parents can be a reason for discord between siblings, these are the most immediate people to the child and who usually give them protection and love, something that children do not like to share.
My children are only a year apart (12 and 13 years old) being Sammy the oldest, the first encounter with her little brother being just a baby was very funny, she did not stop trying to see the baby, the first night the baby slept at home, she woke up several times crying (normal in a baby) and when it happened as the baby slept also in the same room she woke up and it was hard for us to put her back to sleep because she only wanted to be with the baby.
As they have gotten older they have become closer, she has always been protective of her brother, she supports him 100%, however there was a time when she felt and openly expressed jealousy for her brother, for my part I would try to sit one on each leg and tell them this side is yours and this side is your brother's, I would kiss and hug them both. However my husband on the other hand went out of his way for our son because he was a boy and shared sports activities with him, although he has always loved our daughter he has always left some aspects of her upbringing to me because she was a girl, so I tried to compensate my daughter with a lot of affection and activities together.
Recuerdo que mi hija se sentaba en la sala junto a ellos para ver programas de deportes en la tele, trataba por todos los medios de que su papá se diera cuenta de que a ella también le gustaban los deportes. Hasta que llegó un momento en el que ella desistió porque esas actividades la aburrieron, ha pasado el tiempo y pienso que ella no tiene resentimientos porque es muy cariñosa con su papá y su hermano. Sin embargo como madre en esos momentos se me arrugaba el corazón y trataba por todos los medios de reconfortarla y alejar los celos de su cabecita. A dios gracias mi esposo compensaba con salidas por ejemplo al centro comercial,playa y compartía con ambos.
Actualmente Sammy es una joven con un corazón de oro, nos ama y nos lo demuestra con sus pegajosos abrazos y besos, es muy expresiva. Su hermano por otra parte tiende a ser callado pero tiene su lado chistoso y juguetón. Ella es su gran apoyo en el liceo, siempre está al pendiente. Este año como familia nos hemos unido aun más debido a que proximamente mi hijo al fin será operado, esto ha hecho que estemos muy al pendiente de el, sin embargo Sammy lo entiende y apoya en esta situación.
Es importante no mostrar preferencias por algún hijo pues esto genera celos, discordias, los chicos experimentan muchas emociones negativas, se deprimen y su autoestima se ve afectada. Ser niña o niño no significa que la crianza es exclusiva de uno de los padres, al contrario es importante que los dos participen, si bien hay actividades que uno de los padres podrá hacer mejor (costura, deportes por ejemplo ) no significa que no puedan hacer actividades en común para compartir con los hijos. Ser padres no es tarea fácil pero tampoco imposible, es una gran bendición que requiere paciencia, sabiduría y amor.
I remember that my daughter used to sit in the living room next to them to watch sports programs on TV, she tried everything to make her dad realize that she also liked sports. Until there came a time when she gave up because those activities bored her, time has passed and I think she has no hard feelings because she is very affectionate with her dad and brother. However, as a mother in those moments my heart crumpled and I tried by all means to comfort her and keep jealousy away from her little head. Thank God my husband compensated with outings to the mall, the beach and shared with both of them.
Today Sammy is a young lady with a heart of gold, she loves us and shows it with her clingy hugs and kisses, she is very expressive. Her brother on the other hand tends to be quiet but has his funny and playful side. She is his big supporter at school, always looking out for him. This year as a family we have become even closer due to the fact that my son is about to undergo surgery, this has made us be very attentive to him, however Sammy understands and supports him in this situation.
It is important not to show preference for any son because this generates jealousy, discord, the children experience many negative emotions, they get depressed and their self-esteem is affected. Being a girl or a boy does not mean that parenting is exclusive to one of the parents, on the contrary it is important that both parents participate, although there are activities that one of the parents can do better (sewing, sports for example) it does not mean that they cannot do activities together to share with their children. Being parents is not an easy task but it is not impossible either, it is a great blessing that requires patience, wisdom and love.
