Brain Dump | Morning Musings

Raise your hand if you think adulting is challenging!

When it comes to adulting, the first word that comes to my mind is taxes, law, regulation and bills. Most people probably just winging it and not overthinking about those words that came to my mind. I don’t think most people would care about law and regulations. Heck, even 90% of the people in my circle don’t even pay their taxes. Since I am a human with a lot of contradictions, despite my beliefs, I still pay taxes. It’s funny but if that means I could unlock a few privileges as a good tax payer citizen, why not? I talked about this before so I am skipping over it.

Welcome to my brain dump, it’s morning and when I am able to sit down, sipping a cup of coffee while contemplating about life and emptying it out a little.

To me, adulting is challenging when you have to deal with different forms of taxes by yourself, understanding how regulation and law works, and also paying bills. One thing that I recently discovered is something called “premature” adulting. It’s just a term I made up after thinking about how my young cousin despite his financial situation is now responsible for a human being.

My cousin is only 20 but he’s already a father to a baby girl. While he has a job and is doing fairly well, I can’t fathom that at that age, he has to pay bills not only for himself but also the baby. When I was his age, I was drinking somewhere and didn’t care a thing about having a family. And now, my cousin at that age, suddenly has to be responsible to pay rent and all of his little family necessities. I don’t know but in this economy, that seems to be tough. But I guess, he was the type who matured a little early compared to me or his older brother.

I mean, I still struggle paying my own bills and the thought of adding kids into the picture is almost impossible. However, we have a saying over where I am from that having kids will motivate you to do anything. Well, just like doing some type of crime is in the picture too (I watched way too much criminal case news). I hope he won't do that haha.

When adulting, the #1 priority is basically tracking expenses. I think that this life skill has to be taught at school but unfortunately, nobody ever tells us about this. Some of us might learn it the hard way, some of us might learn it in some type of education or from online resources. I had to learn mine a long time ago from books and stuff. As much as I tried keeping mine on track, I never had the system/template that sticks with me until I was using this. I found this template over excel and have been using it. It looks pretty sleek and simple to my brain. Unfortunately, there were bits I didn’t like and I had to customize it to my liking.

Another part of adulting that I find challenging is kissing people’s ass to network. I mean, figuratively. Having a wide array of connections is helpful. Especially living in a third world tier country where “who you know” matters, it helps. I was quite apathetic about it but when I knew the power of knowing somebody could help us out of trouble, I started making a little effort to keep in touch with people/family I know.

I am pretty low maintenance as a friend, at least that’s what my friend told me. I don’t mind if they don’t text me for days and when they decide to hang out again, I’d be down. Besides, I have some type of aversion to prolonged human exposure.

Don’t get me wrong, I like people and I like being out there.

It’s just I have a super limited battery dealing with people and their small talks. It bores the hell out of me when the conversation is going to be repeated all over again. I guess it’s why I tend to bring some type of intriguing topic into the conversation, naturally I steer it to the point where we all question our existence or sometimes odd things in our life, like mysticism or spiritual stuff. Or I ask a good question that allows my friend to share their knowledge and experience. I love listening to stories and fascinating parts of their life rather than the boring part of it.

Now, let’s talk a bit about coffee...

The other day I got this coffee from a cafe that I frequent. They even gave me a membership card and remembered my name. I love this place because I go there almost everyday. Unfortunately, since I didn’t want to go outside for a little while, I decided to get their ground beans. I chose this cosmos thingy. I’ve been eyeing it for a while now and it actually tastes pretty good. If you think coffee is bitter, brewing it with v60 would change the way you see/describe coffee taste. There are other flavors with just one descriptor “bitter”. Okay so after getting this bean and promised myself not to go outside, my friend suddenly asked if I wanted to do WFC and I obliged haha.

Since my dad also needs his medication and supplies stocked, I made sure to also go out for the coffee. Otherwise, it’d be a waste to just go out and only visit the drugstore. After the drugstore, I went to get my caffeine with a friend of mine. I told him how tired I was seeing humans and I was talking it out loud haha. But I made sure to get the message across to my friend that I don’t want to be bothered for at least a few weeks and wanted to be inside the house as long as I could. Also, no more WFC.

It was the same when my mom asked me to see my niece. I said no and usually I would yield but because I need to conserve my energy, I firmly said no. I felt a lot better about it because after all, my patience is pretty low and some people who are close to me already mentioned I look and behave like I am extremely irritable. So, that’s all.

I am also easing my way into checking hive again after a bit of hiatus and sparsely checking this space out. I don’t know what’s new or the trends but I love reading comedic bits from blanchy like this one. It keeps me on the loop about what’s going on in a funnier way.

https://hive.blog/hive-164166/@blanchy/nobody-reads-my-hive-posts-man-gets-shock-when-he-published-old-post-from-years-ago

I guess that’s all. See you around and next morning!