My childhood was good, infact I consider myself privileged to have such a childhood, but then I really can't deny the fact that it could be better. Growing up, I was privileged to be raised by my biological parents. They loved me unconditionally and did their best to make sure I was comfortable.
My parents were just middle class and were not very much formally educated. They gave me the best education they could afford, the best clothes their earnings could buy and the best of foods they could afford too.
They trained me in the manner they felt was best and appropriate. They acted according to their level of knowledge and understanding and because of this I do not blame them for anything they did or did not do, or any mistakes they made.
On major factor that influences and affects the way we live or lives, our choices and judgements is our values. My parents didn't care so much about some things, things which I now have realised how although they may not be very much necessary and a bit frivolous, they have some deep impacts on children.
As a child, I remember how I loved and yearned for outings. My friends in school always told me about their outings and how fun it was. I remember telling my parents just a very few times about going out and visiting fun places. They weren't against it but couldn't factor in time for it because they already had very busy schedules and didn't think it was so important a thing to make them tweak their schedules.I just had to deal with it and pretended that I understood but deep down my heart I really wished they would do something about it.
This made my childhood less interesting and fun as I really didn't have so much of the outing experience. Because of my experience and how I had felt, when I become a parent, I have decided that I would prioritise outings and fun activities. I would make sure my children had enough fun and I would try to meet their wishes to the best of my abilities.
My parents were also very my concerned about how my future would turn out. At every point in time, they made sure to provide the necessary resources and support that I needed to do well. They always wanted to see me lead in whatever thing I was part of. This made them always compare me with other kids my age. The comparison made me sad sometimes, but growing up, I realized that they just meant well for me and wanted me to understand that if others could do it, I can do it as well.
This approach and strategy of theirs is one I have decided not to adopt. I don't think I wouldn't want to compare my child to anyone. I think comparing children with others makes them think of themselves less. It makes them not to look inwards and discover themselves, rather they tend to look at others and consider what others do as the ultimate. They begin to neglect their own special abilities but celebrate that of others.
As a child, I wasn't very disciplined and this attitude deprived me of a lot. As a parent, I would make sure to train my children to be very disciplined and prompt. I would also make sure to hire lesson teachers and make sure that they're taught different skills even at childhood.
There quite a lot of other things I didn't do as a child that I would sure that my children would do but I can't remember all of them now.
I hope to hear from you too, I am sure I would learn a thing or two that would help me be a better parent.
