I honestly get tired of people who say hurtful things and then hide behind “I’m just being blunt.”
You tell someone, “You’ve added so much weight. What happened to you?”
You embarrass someone over their mistake in front of everybody.
You make a nasty comment about someone’s marriage, appearance, job, or finances.Then when their face changes, you say:“Ah ah, don’t be angry. I’m just being honest.”huh?
Sometimes you're not being honest.
You're just being insensitive.
BLUNTNESS IS NOT AN EXCUSE TO BE CRUEL WITH YOUR WORDS;
In Nigeria, we sometimes even celebrate this behaviour. Someone can insult you from head to toe and people will laugh and say, “That's just how she is. She doesn't know how to keep things to herself.”
But imagine being the person on the receiving end.
You don't know what someone is already battling privately. That person you just mocked might have spent the entire night crying. The person you're calling lazy might be struggling with something you know nothing about. The person you're embarrassing over a mistake may already feel like a failure.
And no, I'm not saying we should lie to people just to protect their feelings.
Tell the truth. Correct people. Give honest opinions.
But there is a way to say the truth without deliberately making someone feel small.
Because being blunt is not the same as being rude.
Sometimes kindness is not about what you say.It's about knowing how to say it, when to say it, and whether it even needs to be said.
So before you proudly say, “I'm just a blunt person,” ask yourself one thing:
Are you really blunt, or have you simply never learned how to speak without hurting people?
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