Love is something that everybody wants. It is something everyone wants to feel, and have felt towards them. While some might argue that love is something that is felt naturally and without any effort, the very nature of love makes it difficult to pin in definite terms. In order to truly love someone, you must first understand the nature of love and how to define it. For a feeling people place such importance on, you'd be surprised how many people lose sight of love's true meaning.
The best way to love someone is to celebrate their successes and be happy for them. Show the other person you love them with your words and actions, and use physical contact to make your love stronger. Be open to the possibility of getting hurt, since that’s the only way you can fully love someone. Sometimes you have to take a risk and be vulnerable to find true love! For more help loving someone, as well as help loving yourself, scroll down!
PART-1
Feeling Love
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Consider whether the person is worth your love or not. Love requires a significant emotional investment. While loving someone is not always a matter of choice, it may be worth taking a look at the connection you have with a given person and thinking how loving them might affect you. While this step may sound like a warning, it's actually a positive step towards loving them. If you struggle with feeling love, justifying it on a logical basis can be a positive step forward.
Refusing to be realistic about your feelings may be a sign of infatuation, so be warned.[1]
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Open yourself to the possibility of being hurt.[2] With all love comes the risk of potentially having those feelings turned against you. Defence mechanisms may arise as a way to protect us from the possibility of loving someone. In order to love fully, you need to push past this doubt and realize that love is worth all of the risks you take in pursuing it.
Positive self-talk is a good way to get past this fear. If you are ever in doubt, don't be afraid to tell yourself aloud: "Love is worth the risk of being hurt." Living in fear is itself a form of pain. If you're able to train yourself to let go of that, you'll be much better for the long run.[3]
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Feel love as an addiction. You have probably heard the metaphor comparing love to a drug, but as far as brain chemistry goes, that is somewhat true.[4] When you love someone, you become addicted to their presence. If you focus on all of the good things about someone, you will become increasingly excited to see them again.
Love as an addiction should manifest itself as missing that person terribly while you're apart.[5]
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Celebrate your love's success without jealousy.[6] Even when we hear about friends accomplishing great things, it is natural to feel a tinge of jealousy, especially if we're not happy with the state of our own lives. This is not so often the case with love. If you truly love someone, you feel happy for their happiness, and don't let your own jealousies into the mix.
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Love yourself. Though your feelings towards yourself may have nothing to do with the way your perceive someone you love, the fact remains that you cannot give yourself completely over to someone unless you feel secure and stable with who you are. Loving yourself means recognizing your good qualities, and acknowledging that those are the things that define you as a person.[7] The experience of loving yourself isn't comparable to love for another, but it is a strong step in the right direction.
PART - 2 Coming Soon
