Most likely some of you are going to smile and scroll through my post, thinking I want to preach about marriage vows. It's ok if you do that, no problem, but this post is going to have nothing with it. It's about something else. Last night I was thinking of this so called "to have and to hold" mentality and the consequences of it and decided to put my words on paper, or on the blockchain, to be precise, which is better than paper, as a storing method. It's been on my mind for some time and now that I'm still in the process of selling everything I don't need, it's a good lesson for the future. ![tuaans-PRet1VEonso-unsplash.jpg](https://files.peakd.com/file/peakd-hive/erikah/2432QW32gZHrZi33qNVwaeB64ZmZtZLLdj7TLWq2nCQ1og5jiW81DTB7J34YZCnMY6xax.jpg) Photo by Tuaans on Unsplash During this process, I came across a lot of things that honestly, I didn't even think I still have. Some items have never been used as those have bee put aside, to have later. Now comes the question, when is late? As that time has not come yet it seems as I've never used those items. Lucky me, I only have one or two of these, mostly expensive glass and porcelain, but I've seen this mentality so many times. Without having statistics to back my theory up, still, I think you see this mentality at those limited financially. Buy something of value, to have and then never use it as it's saved for better occasions, that may never come, or let's say, there's no occasion that worth using it. Why? The fear of breaking it, losing it has a lot to do with it. ![atul-pandey-pCS5gimk5B8-unsplash.jpg](https://files.peakd.com/file/peakd-hive/erikah/23wC1Zbav4S2kCW87gn2KDmKXwh6GfPxLVP4EYDgKjJaDR7cSSaWqoMoqRTSD67Y9ip2R.jpg) Photo by Atul Pandey on Unsplash I've seen so many do this, with china, clothes and some with a part of the house, which is even worse. Imagine building a house and never use the rooms as those are meant to be preserved ... to have them clean and new, while they were living in a single room. Clothes have been kept in the drawer, worn only on occasions, till those didn't fit anymore. It's a question of mentality, which has a justification, to some extent, but when you think deeper, you can see you end up not using a good part of your belongings, and when I say not using them, in some cases it means at all. ![clay-banks-3qaMytIyx0c-unsplash.jpg](https://files.peakd.com/file/peakd-hive/erikah/23u6BsUb5pWXvSvRWW5o2VbqFKGRsmDbdKMN4B63G948EaqyFP1wwNiVjnagVMjKuVhn5.jpg) I was raised to think like that, but not in the strictest way. However, over the years, if you have an open mind and learn what's important for you and your well being, you can decide for yourself and live your life as you see fit. For me, this mentality has a very negative effect and it causes more pressure on me, than joy. Storing things you rarely use is just going to restrict your living space and also means spending money on things unnecessarily, so it's not a viable option, or one that I should choose. Times have changed a lot for our generation and the ones after us as well, even more. Mindset has to change as well, if you don't want to live stuck in the past. I don't for sure. Change is the only certain thing in life and I'd say change is good. Some items are to keep, others have their role in our lives and that role can change too. Letting go is part of the process. Learning to let go is crucial, if you want to evolve. Finding a healthy balance between keeping and letting go is the key in this game. We all have an emotional baggage, that we carry with us over the years, but the size of it depends on us. I can only speak for myself but the faster you change and adapt, the better. ![mike-hindle-2jyGcCJKPrQ-unsplash.jpg](https://files.peakd.com/file/peakd-hive/erikah/23t7mWE36WKmKgk17Uiy7vkWaArYP1Br1GBofcX3msVJUoSzn8La5Th9BjzerDACZdYYQ.jpg) Photo by Mike Hindle on Unsplash I'm wondering if what I'm saying makes sense at all, or I'm the only one seeing things this way? Dunno. Let me know in a comment. I think I owe you an explanation regarding these photos, that most of the time have nothing to do with the topic of the post 😆 Yes, that's right, I select them based on what I like and find interesting. For so many years I've been using my photos for these posts, that also rarely had anything to do with the topic, but now I use Unsplash. For me it's a lot of fun to just scroll through the collection of photos the platform offers and pick so many amazing short. I will never be able to take such shuts, or the most of it anyway. So there you go, you have the explanation, mystery sold.

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