Wedding is a social activity that brings family and friends together to witness and celebrate the joining together of two individuals to begin a marital journey. It's a major activity in one's lifetime and many people want to have fond memories of it. I have been privileged to attend many weddings because I did mine about two and a half years ago.
There are some things that happen in weddings that I detest. I used to complain about them. Unfortunately, some of them happened during my wedding which I couldn't prevent because being the celebrant, I wasn't in charge of the occasion. Other loved ones were.
The first thing that I would like to mention is the selective serving of food during reception. In many weddings that I attended, the families of the bride and the groom prepared for their individual guests. At the end of the day, if you are not very close to any of the families, you may end up not eating or getting souvenirs. If the wedding is strictly by invitation, that's understandable. But these categories of weddings were not strictly by invitation. During my wedding, this didn't happen. Food was shared to each and everyone one till what was available was exhausted.
The second thing that I am not fond of is the situation whereby the groom's family and that of the bride are not united during the wedding. Both would be doing their things separately without any sign of convergence. I once attended a friend's wedding in a marriage registry. During the photo session, the families of the couples were fighting on who to snap with the couple first. It was embarrassing. I couldn't join in the photo session. Many instances like that abound in different dimensions. Couples' families should come together as one on that very important day and even beyond for the sake of the young lovebirds just starting their marital lives.
One thing that I won't forget to mention is the delay in wedding proceedings. I prefer everything should be done moderately without unnecessary delay. The situation whereby couples remain on a seat for many hours while the activities are being carried out is not ideal. At times, the couples get exhausted but would not be able to complain. Being at the center of attention, they would want to bear the inconveniences till the end of the program. The anchors should be cognizant of this. This happened to me during my wedding. It got to a time when my eyes were red from tiredness. I wanted the activities to be snappy but it wasn't within me to complain. I endured with my wife till the end.
The indecent dressing of what is popularly known as asoebi girls (a committee of friends of the bride) is appalling. It is becoming a norm for such a category of girls to reveal the sensitive part of their bodies. I watched a wedding video recently where the asoebi girls were almost dancing naked. Their uniform was made from a transparent material, revealing some sensitive parts of their bodies. I detest such a sight with every passion. One mustn't appear naked to look beautiful.
Finally, I detest seeing any occasion constituting inconveniences to others. For example, some weddings are done within an open space in residential areas. In order to get more space for hosting attendees, public roads are permanently blocked for the duration of the occasion. This shouldn't happen. In addition to this is the abuse of the nation's currency, the naira. People should desist from dancing on the notes and mutilating them. The currencies are an identity of the country that should be respected.
