Striving to break free from doctrines that do not bring me happiness ☺️🌹🌻

There is a question that has been crossing my mind more and more lately: have I truly been living my life based on my own awareness and independent thought, or have I simply been following the doctrines, beliefs, and ideas of others without ever truly questioning them?

The more I strive to understand life, the more I realize that not everything we are taught should be accepted as absolute truth. Not every piece of advice must serve as a lifelong guiding principle; not every inherited rule must be upheld especially if it only robs us of happiness, stifles our growth, or distances us from the life we genuinely wish to build.

I have come to understand that one of the most insidious forms of human confinement is when the mind feels free, while in reality, one’s entire perspective remains governed by doctrines that one has never dared to question.

From a young age, we are conditioned to accept many things as inherently true. We are taught how to think, how to behave, what is considered appropriate, what must never be questioned and even how we ought to live our lives. While some of these teachings offer genuine value, help shape character, and foster social harmony, others serve only to instill fear, sow guilt, suppress courage, and make an individual feel sinful simply for daring to hold a different point of view.

In the past, I might not have given much thought to any of this; I simply tried to adapt, followed established customs, accepted the opinions of others, and assumed that whatever most people believed must be true. Yet, life’s journey has taught me that the mere fact that many people believe something does not automatically make it the truth. Any idea should be tested, any piece of advice should be understood, and any belief should be reflected upon with a clear mind.

Today, I do not wish to be someone who spends their entire life defending things they have never truly understood.

To me, being free from dogma does not mean rejecting all teachings, spurning traditions, or assuming that I alone possess the absolute truth. Nor does it mean abandoning moral values, respect, or concern for others. Rather, I seek to distinguish between values that genuinely enrich life and those concepts that merely instill a fear of growth.

I want to hold onto my beliefs without losing my capacity to think. I want to continue respecting others without having to sacrifice my own freedom of thought. I am open to receiving advice, yet I retain the courage to ask questions whenever something does not make sense.

For me, critical thinking is not an act of rebellion against what is good. It is an endeavor to reach a more mature understanding—ensuring that I am not easily manipulated by the words, agendas, or fears that others might intentionally plant within me.

I have also begun to realize that happiness should not always be measured against the standards of living set by those around us. We do not have to lead the same lives as others, harbor the same ambitions, follow the same paths, or seek validation from people who do not even understand our personal struggles. As I have often mentioned, every human being has a unique journey, distinct needs, individual capabilities, and different opportunities. Therefore, I no longer wish to constantly measure my life by the yardsticks imposed by others.

I want to learn to understand myself what truly makes me happy? What helps me grow? What have I been doing solely out of fear of being judged negatively by others? And how many of the decisions in my life have actually stemmed not from my own desires, but from external pressure?

Questions like these may seem simple, yet they are profoundly important to me. For before I can build a better life, I must first identify the boundaries that have long hindered my own growth.

I do not want hatred to be the basis for my liberation. I do not want my anger toward the past to turn me into a person as rigid as those who once constrained my own thinking. Instead, I seek to liberate myself through knowledge, maturity, patience, and the courage to accept that I may have misunderstood many things all along.

I must also have the courage to admit that not all of my own ideas are correct. Freedom of thought does not mean allowing the ego to become a new master; rather, the broader one’s knowledge becomes, the greater one’s awareness should be of how much remains unknown. Therefore, I aspire to be someone who never stops learning reading more, listening to diverse perspectives, verifying information before accepting it as true, and refraining from hasty judgment simply because something differs from what I have previously understood.

I wish to possess a free and expansive mind while remaining a humble individual. I want to hold firm convictions, yet always leave room for self-improvement. I want to be capable of saying "no" when something conflicts with my core values, while also having the courage to admit when I am wrong upon discovering a better understanding.

Having navigated various difficult periods in my life, I have come to realize that my time is far too precious to be spent solely on meeting the expectations of others or clinging to beliefs that hinder my personal growth.

Today, I choose to rise, to grow, and to flourish.

I want to build a life that is genuinely better, rather than one that merely appears good in the eyes of others. I seek a happiness rooted in self-awareness not a superficial joy that depends on the approval of those around me.

The journey toward breaking free from established doctrines may not always be easy. There will be moments when I feel out of step, misunderstood, or even judged for daring to question the status quo. Yet, I must learn to accept that not everyone will embrace the changes within me. As long as I do no harm to others, continue to respect their rights, and strive to live responsibly, there is absolutely no need for me to sacrifice my true self just to gain everyone’s approval none at all.

Today, I want to grant myself the space to think more freely, to explore life more broadly, and to chart my own path with a more mature sense of awareness.

I refuse to remain a prisoner of the past, of fear, of the ambitions others have for me, or of outdated ideas whose validity I have never even examined.

I am reclaiming my right to think, to learn, to ask questions, to make my own choices, and to evolve into a better version of myself.

I believe that a good life is not one where we succeed in fulfilling everyone else’s expectations; rather, it is a life in which we are able to live out values of goodness with full awareness without ever sacrificing our happiness, our humanity, or the freedom to be our authentic selves.

I am not striving to be someone who opposes everything; I am simply learning to be a person who no longer accepts everything without critical thought. I want to navigate life using my own mind, grasp the truth through my own consciousness, and build my own happiness without living under the shadow of doctrines that stifle my growth.

I aspire to be independent in my thinking, mature in my conduct, broad in my understanding, and wise in how I live my life in this world.

It is important to understand that freeing oneself from doctrine does not mean losing one’s moral compass or guiding principles. Instead, it is about learning to choose principles that are healthy, rational, and humane principles that do not strip away our opportunity to grow.

In my view, one of the greatest forms of human freedom is the ability to think for oneself without having to harbor hatred toward the thoughts of others.

Thanks a lot for reading; see you next time with a different topic.

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