We can't deny the fact that parents want the best for their children. That is why parents work very hard to provide the best things for their children, best food, best education and so on. That is why, sometimes, other parents tend to become authoritative over their children. They want their children follow everything they say. They decide for their children. Sadly, they even decide whom their children marry.
Our children will only stay with us until they become independent. It is inevitable that they will look for a partner to spend their lifetime with and start their family. However, some parents are still practicing "arranged marriage" where they choose who their children marry.
I strongly disagree with this because, as a human being, we are given the right to decide for ourselves. So, if your child is at the right age to marry, let him/her decide. Parents role here now would be limited to guiding them on the right path.
How many of us here have heard of couples breaking up because they are not happy with their life because they don't love each other? I know that what we want is for our children to be happy but can they be happy if they were not left to decide on their own? Are you prepared to take the blame if their marriage won't workout because in the first place, you decided for them?
Let us not come to the point where our children blame us for the failure they experienced in life. As much as possible, let us be happy with the decisions they made in life. If they made a wrong decision, let us not blame them instead, let us support them all the way.
I know years from now our daughter will leave us to start her family. It would hurt maybe but as long as I can see her being taken cared of, then I would surely be happy for her as well.
