~ Family planning a choice or mandatory? ~

Greetings pupil.

Interestingly, recently I had a long conversation with one of my aunts and at one point our conversation escalated to a topic I never thought deeply about, family planning.

I have just recently stepped in my 20's and I all I think about is nothing related to marriage. So let alone family planning. After that event it has been persistently bothering me as to how we actually set things in our life. Thinking about education, career, life feels simple and fixed. Nonetheless, marriage and family planning should too be such an easy thing, but is it?

From my surroundings, I have taken it that it is compulsory to get married, and that is the meaning of getting settled. Moreover, family planning comes with that package of marriage. It is then, that thoughts started to cross my mind that are we manipulated in thinking that marriage and family planning is a mandatory task alike our education and building up a career of our own? While such thoughts kept boggling my mind, I took a deep breath to take one at a time.

Keeping the marriage topic aside, I am more into the thoughts of family planning. If both husband and wife wants to lead a life without children is it not okay? It should be fine right? From where do we get the idea of continuing legacy through children? I am not quite sure but according to my estimation depending on the many families I have seen, it is pretty obvious to take up children, one is mandatory. Yes, I have overheard many conversations of this kind and many girls dream to be mothers.

It is a blessing, I do not want to touch on that topic. Marriage entirely is known to be a blessing send from God and so are children. What I am more concentrating is the thought of taking babies or not. the thought of planning to build oneself than a planning of taking responsibility for the future generation.

It is true that once I am planning to be committed into a relationship, in the name of marriage and plan on still building our world, shaping our career, it is not selfish to take that decision. It is not selfish to take the decision of not upbringing another generation. It is not selfish at all.

Also, how many parents are actually taking responsibility for their babies actions? How many families understand what their babies are going through? How are you planning to build up a generation while you are busy mending your life, your career and the baby? While mismanaging every single thing, how are you still staying accountable to yourself for your responsibilities? Are you, is a question repetitively bothering my mind.

Rather than regretting in the long run, is it not wise to be aware beforehand? Is it wise to be downright ignorant or being accountable for the actions we aim to take? If I am sure that I will not be able to bring up my children properly, with guidance and care, then it is my responsibility to make the decision before I regret it.

Responsibility is a huge thing to those who understand it. Therefore, if you are that kind of person, measure your situation and make decisions accordingly. It is not a fairytale and things cannot be undone. Family planning is a choice which is not mandatory.