As a person who values freedom the most, I try to give everybody the opportunity of being free around me, especially my partner in life. I am going to talk about how I manage my relationship with the partner I have today and I hope we can all learn something from this analysis
Most of the time people try to set really strict rules in their partner’s life. Some never allow their partner the freedom to go out with the opposite sex or to even chat with them. Having these rules does more harm than good in my opinion because it creates tension, fear and potential conflict. You do not want to base your relationship on that. Over time, the tension will grow and sometimes even more restrictions will follow when one day the bubble will break and a strong conflict will arouse. Allowing your partner to function as a normal human being without strict boundaries is basing the relationship on trust and true love. You allow them to be themselves and you do not shape them as a prisoner of your own restrictions. Don’t get me wrong. People should never cheat or lie in a relationship, but these are not boundaries set by the partner, but a moral duty caused by the love you two have for each other. If people really love one another, they will never cheat, lie or do harm in any way to that relationship, because they value it more than anything else.
When you base your bond on freedom, you allow the other person to grow with you. The idea is to have freedom of expression, to allow you two to be accepted by one another and then build a strong emotional connection on that. If even one of you has mental blockages or unresolved traumas it can be rather challenging to allow that to happen, but when people are allowed to express themselves they form a connection through love and acceptance making a beautiful romance between each other – a poetic true love. Like two trees whose roots align with one another and create a link that in the future grows in oneness. Your two identities will get connected and grow together, making you both a team that can sustain any obstacle along their way, you are both independent and one at the same time. A true masterpiece.
One of the core concepts of freedom is communication. You can express your thoughts without being judged for them. When you replace boundaries with communication you can create a space for you two where you both feel really loved and accepted. Talking to one another about anything that happens or may happen in your relationship is crucial for its survival. A lot of people break up because one of them has an irrational thought about their partner that they have never shared before, because of the restrictions of their own mind or the other persons set boundaries to them. The things that you cannot share can grow into conflict within yourself, and project unto the relationship, or between you too in the relationship. Communication can really eliminate these problems and allow for a proper bond to happen between you two. And without freedom – there is no way of proper communication.
People make relationships harder than they have to be. If two people base their whole bond on trust, love, morals and true emotions – the bond will grow as they do. Most of the time though, people who are restricting their own existence project that aspect into the relationship, if you do not value these core principles and the idea of freedom – I do not think you would ever create true love. And until next time – peace, love and eternal happiness <3
