We are humans and we can't have it all. At one point of the other, we need help from people around us to scale through and that's very natural. But truth be told, seeking for help can be very difficult especially with how humans are designed. I could seek help from a friend and get turned down and I would feel bad about it especially when I knew that the friend could offer the help, meanwhile, the friend at the moment I requested for the help, had a dying personal issue to fix. That's life for us.
I'm among those that only seek help when all possible solutions have been tried and left with nothing. Yes, as bad as it is, that's how I live. But hey, I still seek help, so I'm not totally weird.
I've come to understand that we all have our problems battling on earth and it takes a lot of effort for something to put a pause to their problems to help you solve yours. It takes a whole lot!
"What if the help you needed at that moment is not practically in use by the proposed help giver such as money lying useless in the bank account?"
A lot of people use this to judge the help givers. The truth is, that money you think is useless in the bank account could be put into action to something profitable any time. So we shouldn't judge like that.
I once asked a friend for help, a very close friend for that matter and she has the money because I knew, but this friend told me she can't give out the money without interest. Yoh! I was mad because this is someone I always come through for. But after I was calm, I got to realise that she was actually right with how she wanted to use her money!
I'm the type that prefers to wreck down my account before thinking of reaching out to people for help. At that moment, I will feel at my limit and any negative feedback I get from the person shouldn't hurt me because at that moment, reaching out to people was the only option left.
This is how I also see it whenever someone reaches out to me for help, I see it as they've exhausted all possible means to solve the issue but they couldn't solve the issue, so what comes next is seeking help from me. This is why most times it's just too hard for me to say NO at those moments whenever I have the means to help. But then, I've also learnt to say no in some situations after critical examinations because I've found out that some people are just there to take advantage of people.
As I write this, I have a lot of things to sort out financially and it has gotten to the point of seeking help from people but I won't do that until I get to the limit. I powdered down already and you too, you can power down to solve your issues than to go around begging for money. Bad financial advice, right? Lol
Thanks for reading.
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