The problem with asking for help is that many who usually believed in In getting from others has no self esteem and feels no pride of themselves as humans. Not that we can not ask for help as human beings, but too much of everything is generally bad.
I have always believed in trying to do things on my own and making sure not to border people because that was the lifestyle my parents brought my siblings and I up. You know like in those days when you can actually go to your next door neighbor and ask for salt 🧂 or even matches for example? My mother will literally tell you to eat the food 🥘 like that because this food without enough salt for once will not kill you. And yes! We took this footsteps, knowing you need to have self esteem, self pride and stay away from anything that can lead to embarrassment.
And until into my adulthood, I have lived with this mindset of keeping my problems to myself and trying to solve the once I can by myself which lead to living an independent life from early age. This truly also boosted myself confident, knowing that no one knows what ever problems I might be going through.
Yes! This is a popular saying , meaning that we need to share our problems with others, or at least one person to get assistance either by advice or physical support. In other words asking for help indirectly, but most times it is not as simple as it sounds due to how many even after knowing you situation will not be willing to help you and instead, might start to avoid you. So here, your self confidence has been lowered which makes you feel so bad and uncomfortable anytime you come across such a person or people.
And again, sometimes problems shared with others can end up being solved because we decided to put away our pride. But many of us can start to use this opportunity and means as an advantage to constantly be disturbing others . This is when it becomes problematic and shameful. Asking for help without limit can make people see us as someone without things faculty and one without dignity.
There is not wrong with asking for help, but the issue with needing help is how you present the situation or case. If people knows you as a hard workings person who never depends on others and don’t ask easily at all time, then it becomes a solid factor for anyone yo say oh, this person must really need this help he or she is asking because they don’t know you as a lazy person or a leech who lives on others.
A cousin sister of mine has this bad attitude of lavishing money 💴. And the problem with her is that she is lazy. She has two junior brother twins 👯♀️ who are doing very well in business. And severely, the twins has helped her with huge some of money for business set up, but soon enough, she will squander the money and start asking for another money. And after a few years later , they decided not to help her again. This when she decided to be calling everyone for assistance. Who will want to help her?
So this is life learning lesson. Don’t take what you have for granted. And don’t try to misuse opportunities of a life time because you feel you have the access and ticket. There are so many people out there who are struggling because they have no one to ask. And many who has might decide not to ask because they believe in themselves.
Personally, I see help as something very important in our lives because we must one day need it even while we are trying to keep our head up of not bordering others. I have family I can turn to in times of need, but I make it once In while to keep my self esteem and self confidence. I also have friends I can confide in for help, but those that will not mock me or make jest of me because they want to help me.
In general, asking for help does not mean we can’t do things on our own . And trying not to seek help is not that we can do it all because no man is an Island 🏝. Everyone in life needs a push and support to keep moving on, but we should ask with dignity, ask with respect and always remember to ask with a limit.
This is my response to the #hiveleaners featured content for week 213, edition 01.
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