Thanks for the description of the relational fields. I think I do share much with people and many find it easy to talk with me. Also, I write quite confessional things and so perhaps there is some oversharing. As the 4/1, even though I know very little about HD, I heard I am not meant to change, but be who I am, a bridge builder, so this seems a tricky area in that regard. At least somewhat a blind spot for me, or I'm not sure how to alter, besides give it my all and hope the other is capable/willing to put forth a similar effort.
This kind of discussion can go into loops fast :)
As far as knowing with certainty, today is an odd feeling day for me, one in which I feel humbled by life and like I have no answers.