MARRYING OLD #248

One time a friend raised a weird question in a group discussion that a lot of people found gross. She asked “Do old people get horny? And immediately the atmosphere changed. Some people found it gross, and others found it funny. I for one found that question funny, and it is something that is not really talked about in the society. I think it is because the older people around us make it look as though it is not something old people feel and it is only felt at the early ages of maturity. Although I was the first to reply and my reply was; If the bible can state that Sarah got pregnant at the age of 90, it means she was still doing it right? And she wouldn’t do it with her husband if they weren’t horny. This brought more laughter to the room that day, and I even find myself laughing as I write.

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I think that although older people understand love better than us, they will not be given to sex the way we do. I feel they will be more into having someone they can be free with and share a deep connection with, the kind of connection they can’t get from their kids or grandkids because they are busy with their lives also, and besides, a lot of us would be retired by 70 having a lot of free time, so what would we do with that time, and who do we spend it with. And on a more serious note, I think one of the many reasons for marriage is intimacy and even old people crave it. Now intimacy goes beyond sex, it all boils down to companionship which is often not easy to find even at a young age, but when you have experienced companionship for a very long time in marriage and for some reason you lose your partner in old age, chances are that you might find yourself craving such relationships again.

I do not think remarrying is something people plan to do, because I can’t even imagine losing my partner in the first place. Now imagine that happens at old age, remarrying would not even cross your mind if that person meant a lot to you. I think it’s totally based on how the relationship is. But what I do know is that if I am to die at old age, I would want my partner to find love and happiness anyhow she deems fit instead of dwelling on my death till she dies too. If God blesses her with a longer life, I would wish for her to use it in finding happiness and comfort. Perhaps if it were me and I see someone else that gives me that happiness and comfort I will remarry, but I doubt I will be the one to go looking for it, because I might not see someone who can fill the hole my partner left.

THIS IS MY RESPONSE LADIES ON HIVE CONTEST #248