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Dependence is when someone relies on another person, thing, or system to survive, succeed, or feel safe. It’s like leaning on a wall because you’re too tired to stand on your own. Sometimes, dependence is necessary, and other times, it can become a heavy chain. From the moment we are born, we start life depending on others. A baby depends on the mother for food, warmth, and care.
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That kind of dependence is healthy it helps us grow. But as we become older, we’re expected to learn how to walk on our own, think on our own, and do things by ourselves. That’s where dependence can either help or hold us back.
There’s a type of dependence that gives strength, like trusting your friend to help you through tough times, or leaning on your family when you’re not doing well. This is emotional support, and it's a beautiful kind of dependence because it makes you feel loved and safe. But there’s another type that can quietly take away your power when you depend on others so much that you can’t make a move without them. That’s when dependence becomes a problem. It’s like a bird that refuses to fly because it got too comfortable sitting in someone’s hand.
Dependence also shows up in daily life. Some people depend too much on their phones, some on money from others, and some on constant praise to feel good about themselves. These things might work for a short time, but over time, they weaken your inner strength. True peace and confidence come from knowing you can stand, even when help is delayed. That doesn’t mean you must do everything alone, but it means you should build your own strength too.
In truth, no one is fully independent we all need help sometimes. But the kind of dependence that lifts you up is better than the one that holds you down. So, it’s important to check: am I leaning because I need rest, or because I’ve forgotten how to walk on my own? That’s the real meaning of dependence knowing when to receive help, and when to rise and move with your own strength.
