Lets talk relationships, shall we?馃槉
It's been fours years since Hilda and Dara's wedding day. The butterflies had fluttered a good while in both bellies, and it was high time everything became normal.
Months passed by, years even. By now, they already have their first child, a lovely, peppy boy, who they named 'Jesse'.
This was when things began to seem to be changing pretty fast.
Months earlier, Dara lost his job鈥攖his may have been the big hit鈥攂ut, for a moment everything seemed just fine. "Dara would get another job and they would all be fine"鈥攑erhaps this was too good a thought to be possible.
Months past, with Dara job-less. Weights started shifting as Hilda had to buckle up to be a support system. Again, this would have been no problem had Dara stayed sane.
As time went by both adults began to drift off from each other.
For Hilda, it was not just the worries of being a mother, it was the added torment of being a wife to 'broken' man.
Broken.
Dara, being a father who could no longer comfortably cater for his wife and child, had a reality he was too afraid to live in.
When there's a problem in a relationship, we alnost always feel that ghe other person is the problem, not us.
This is no news, as it plays out in our everyday life.
Let it be stated emphatically, that our response to rosy and not-so-rosy situations have a way of affecting how we come out of them.
If you're like Dara, become intentional about communicating your fears. Voice it out your emotions and let them know.
And to you, Dear Hilda, if he's broken then he must need you the most. So you'll have to make sacrifices.
Yes! You'll have to sacrifice your comfort, time鈥攁nd in some cases money.
In our relationships 'sacrifice' and 'communication' cannot be written off, and this is where intentionality comes in.
Instead of shifting blames, lets embrace intentionality as it is the footing for lasting relationships.
In all, be intentional about your relationships, Dear You!
