Yes, We all expect to get something from our relationships, but it has also been taken too far. We spend too much time comparing our relationships to what we see on social media, demanding that we get the same thing without seeing the bad Or the downsides.
Power Imbalances
When you constantly nag and demand things from your partner, it makes them feel like they don't have a say in your relationship. They will feel like they need to do more and overall feel underappreciated. And You may feel "owed" these things because you are the "prize". Right? And that stems from what? The fact you were born a woman?
When you don't feel responsible for meaningfully contributing to your relationships, Chances are you won't. And this creates a very one-sided dynamic where a man will be sitting there wondering what he is getting out of it.
It Holds Him To A Higher Standard Then He's Holding You
Things won't always be equal. One partner may have more needs than the other. When there is a huge discrepancy, it can cause feelings of resentment in the relationship. We all hear of that man leaving a woman to be with someone else. And you'll be putting yourself in that position. A lot of people assume it's always due to appearance or youth. But it appears to be more profound than that. Often, those other relationships had more things missing, and they found it in someone else. A younger person may appreciate and admire him more. And be willing to fulfill his needs better than his original partner.
It Makes Him Feel Rejected
It puts him in a position where he will feel like his thoughts, Decisions, and overall contribution aren't good enough, and it will make him hesitant later to want to contribute in fear that he will mess up and feel even more rejected. If someone constantly gets rejected, their desire to try can slowly wear down, especially when their past efforts have yet to be recognized or appreciated.
Men are often expected to make the first moves on everything, which can be exhausting. In a longer-term relationship, this mentality can frequently persist. Give the man a break, Plan something, Make a decision, or do anything to make his life easier. And show appreciation for the things he does. That's a better way of encouraging him to do more.
