Sharing. Managing group dynamics. Being a good teammate. Going out in the world and ensuring safety and prosperity to yourself through giving. Not being stingy. Making the atmosphere cordial and welcoming. Spending on necessary aspects that do not benefit you. Being a good friend. Engaging a company of friends.
When money is the primary concern, it's impossible to live and give and interact long term as a good friend. The perspective is nurtured that every cent saved is a cent "earned" and "won" and "saved". The economical choice in every category in today's world represents a flawed product or experience that the sort of people that spend on these economical choices seem to ignore a great deal about the product or experience itself, or play ignorant, or thinks he/she can slip by and be allowed to slide/be forgiven, or is addicted and possessed by the gain of money, the love for gain as the fear of loss, and is the sort of present and giving not a friend gives to another, but the sort of presents a survivalist eeks out of his own pocket, survival habits and tactics and fear driven characters. Save too much and it's a great loss, spend too much and it's a great loss, Lao Tzu wrote, best to be sparing. Being sparing with money purely, only works and means you're sparing if the character of the money system is giving and forgiving and specifically demands that the economical choice always is a properly designed and produced product or experience. Real world money system personality is the height of useless extravagance and sophisticated meaninglessness/gibberish, it's capitalism so the people designing and producing products want to give and design as poor a product as the public will accept, so there's room for improvement/evolution and more money can be charged for the properly designed product. Proper products and wholesome experiences in the opinion of the character of money needs a lot more investment for all to be satisfied so the end product is always more expensive, ends up being a luxury product. The capitalist, the successful one that consistently works and actually makes money, is a sadistic personality willing to starve as many people as is justifiable to make their product cheaper so more people are willing to buy their product and they can own the market and dominate in a money system that allows virtually one brand to own the market. Because there's limited space in the consciousness of man and only a handful of brands will stick and people can only buy a handful of brands with money agreed to be severely limited.
Money and capitalism being managed and directed by capitalist characters that are sadistic and psychopathic from the perspective of not batting an eyelid in economically abusing populations and entire countries of people, being so big and powerful evading the taxes, bargaining to the extreme, not giving a single care about the living standard of the people they employ, advertising and imposing a system of inequality where virtually one person gets all the money, essentially hoarding money at the behest of populations of people giving seemingly justifiable reasons and excuses and justifications and laws, it's impossible to be sparing in life if you're purely sparing with money alone.
So sharing. Being a good friend in the essence of every interaction over a span of time with another person, necessitates a different mindset in defining the conditions and guidelines for saving money, you got to realize capitalism is a damaged character so any thoughts or products produced by this character will be in the image and likeness of a damaged character, distributing inferior products as cheap as can be made. Being sparing in life is not equal to being sparing with money. The definition of being sparing with money can mean every cent saved is gain for yourself. It's very easy to construct and design a reluctant feeling every time you have to spend money, no matter what the category of spending is. You can design a victimized ill feeling when circumstances and people call for some of your money to be spent. And simultaneously, you can construct and design and feel really good when you see and act on saving every penny, regardless of where you're essentially taking money away from nearly every person.
It's said you won't last long in the real world if you're guiding principle in life is every cent saved is you gaining wealth and power, which is what you say when you feel good about saving money and feel bad when you have to spend it. Realize proper products and experiences designed and produced by proper balanced people - that's your different breed of capitalists - can never be as cheap as the cheapest product thrown together by a mainstream capitalist that blackmail and threaten populations of people. A lot of the time you spending on the cheapest choice just to give something to everyone else is a reflection on you, your lack of empathy and standing in the shoes of another. In a money system that is the height of imperfection, extreme saving is selfish and self interested, self obsessed and weak because you've defined yourself according to the number in your bank account. You've defined yourself according to the love for money with a fear of losing money. You think money is your identity, ignoring the life that you are, that everyone is life, that requires real care and consideration backed by real movement and the measurement of movement in this world is money.
So what does it mean to be sparing with life? It includes realizing the proper choice that affords everyone the best experience is not cheap. There are moments where you have to decide what you're going to value more, your money or everyone's life. Which includes the time they're spending with you and the experiences you direct and determine for them through how you spend money. Sparing with life doesn't mean extreme saving or spending. The focus and my attention should at some point be deep in other people's lives and living, rather than the size of my pocket.
