Use Your Head

Use your Head

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I know, it sounds like a harsh sentence, almost like an insult, but it's something that has helped me try to make right decisions in life.

For people with big wits, you would have probably guessed that those words were from a Father, and you'd be right .

CONTENT MAP
[01] The Origin of the Motto
[02] The Deeper Meaning & Benefits
[03] The Downsides & Seeking Balance

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My Dad is a loving but very disciplined man. When I and my siblings were children and we make mistakes or did something appalling and worth breaking our head Lol, my father's words were the same "use your head" .

At that time, I hated hearing it. Like, are you trying to call me "not smart" or "dum". As a child, you wouldn't want to hear that when emotions are running wild. We were all children and what we expected as correction was comfort. However, as I got older, I understood that, that sentence meant something deeper. It was my father's way of saying "don't act on impulse". You should always think and think deep before you do anything.

Even as we grew up to being teenagers and then adults, his advise was the same but just a bit more subtle. It now became "Use your head, it will always tell you the right thing to do".

There's a time when a girl served me breakfast(slang for breakup) and I felt so bad and shared with my Father, his words were "The heart is not so smart, but your head will always tell you the right thing to do".

That sentence lives rent free in my brain. Living by the motto "use your head" has overtime helped me make better choices. There have been situations in my life that acting emotionally or on impulse would have put me into serious trouble, unnecessary arguments thats time wasting, rushed decisions or moves I would regret later.

But pausing to chill and to think logically helped me avoid unnecessary drama and losses, whether in relationships, money matter or personal growth.

Living by the motto "Use your head" has helped me positively. There has been situations in my life that if I didn't use my head and made an objective decision, I would have lost a lot.

However, that doesn't mean that motto doesn't have downsides. Sometimes using your head and always trying to make an objective decision would make you look cold. My family, even the extended ones used to think that I lacked empathy and was heartless lol. I guess there are moments in life where your empathy is needed more than your logic.

Guys know what I'm saying, if you have a girlfriend and you dealing with her logically, you'd end up just losing her. Sometimes you just have to chill and listen to her emotional needs instead of trying to be logical about everything.

There were times where I overthought things and lost opportunities and even relationships because I was trying to hard to be rational.

This is a motto that I intend following. We love in is a world where emotions could control one's actions and choosing to "use your head" is more of a form of discipline.

So yes, it may sound harsh but it's a lifetime lesson from a Father that wants his children to be strong and to grow to make wise decisions.

Thank You for Reading ♥

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