When a loved one is lost, sometimes one believes we must be strong and that this means being forced to repress our feelings. I believed that inhibiting pain was typical of men, and that it would also help to bring the situation to my loved ones, especially my children.
Externalizing your feelings will help you get over and see things more clearly. But do not be afraid to manifest what you feel; if you want to cry, you can do it, remember that you have the shoulder of your Father God so that you lean on it, remember that He knows how you feel, He gave his beloved son Jesus for the salvation of humanity.
Manifest your pain, because doing so serves as an outlet. Freeing up feelings can ease the tension that you feel. The natural expression of emotions accompanied by understanding and accurate information (lean on the word of God) will allow you to see your feelings from a correct perspective.
Obviously, not everyone expresses pain in the same way. And factors such as whether the death of the loved one occurred suddenly or after a long illness, could influence the emotional reaction of the survivors. All in all, what seems certain is that repressing feelings can harm you both physically and emotionally. It is much healthier to vent the pain.
The bible tells us that after Job lost his ten children and other personal misfortunes, the old patriarch said:"My soul is fed up with my life, I will give free rein to my complaint. I will speak bitterly of my soul. " (Job 10: 1) Job could not contain his worry any longer. I had to give him free rein; I had to talk. Therefore, if you talk about your feelings with"a real partner or friend" who listens patiently and understandingly, you may find some relief.In everything the friend loves, and is like a brother in times of anguish (Proverbs 17:17) By verbally expressing experiences and feelings, it is usually easier to understand and cope with them.
It is possible that for some time your emotions are somewhat unpredictable. Perhaps tears will come when least expected. Maybe you believe that some carelessness of his contributed to the death of the person he loved and loved. If that is the case, it may help to think that feelings of guilt * are real or imagined * They are a normal reaction of affliction. Nor should these feelings necessarily be repressed. Talking about the guilt you feel, will bring you great relief. Jesus Christ said:
"Peace I leave you, my peace you two; I do not give it to you as the world gives it. Do not let your heart be troubled, nor be afraid "(John 14:27)
God bless you greatly
