I have been asking myself one question since morning and it has been been of a big boost to my morale and I want to ask you the same question today, I don't know how you will see it but I would want you to keep an open mind to the things I want to say and this single question I will be asking you.
In life we have tried all we could not to fail without calculating the cost of success and the pains of loss, we only want to succeed because we can't afford to stay hungry whole others are living their lives of we just want to succeed because our peers are doing far better than us but at what cost?
Growing up as a girl child with my parents in the Eastern part of Nigeria, I only wanted to be successful because my mom gave birth to only female children and this was just the only thing that pushed me, I just wanted to show my parents that they can still have a successful girl child but at what cost?
There were days when things weren't going my way and I would go to bed and cry myself out because I only wanted to be successful to prove a point, back in school I will spend 18 hours reading to come out top of the class and would not talk to any man because I never wanted to be distracted or something but at what cost was I doing all of these?
The success we are all pursuing, what's really the motive for it? I would tell you point black that a good number of people clamouring to be successful are only doing that for their own selfish interest and not for anything that will benefit the person next door because to us as long as we are okay then we shouldn't worry a out how others are fairing.
I was doing all of these at the detriment of my own life, I did these at the detriment of my social networking, I couldn't get to network with people the way I was supposed because to me those things were just distraction then but at the same time I was oh focused on getting a good degree just to tell my parents that female children can do what male children can do.
All these took a toll on me when I graduated and got the certificate but did it ever worth all the closure? I literally did all of these without thinking of what was at stake. No, all I think was how to to be prideful in my own wins but neglected the bigger picture of as to what was at stake.
To me, all these wins were limited to me and my parents but what about the destinies tied to my hands? What about those I am destined to help when I am successful, so what happens if I don't help them? I get to realize that a lot was at stake and I didn't just realized it early, so I spent days I was supposed to impart on people and lived solo which has cost me a whole lot right now.
My questions are what is really at stake? at what cost is your pursuit for success? Is it just for self-aggrandizing or to impart and write your name in the sands of time? What is really at stake? Do you know yet or you are yet to figure it out?
