2024 was a year of financial waste; I do not think I have ever been that wasteful in my life, and the consequences are starting to show in 2025. In my defense, 2023 was chaotic, and I spent more time in and out of the hospital than I have in my entire life.
Most of that spending was out of fear, pressure and uncertainty. However, these are just excuses; in the end, you can only blame yourself.
A man's life is difficult; most of the time, you must buy favour with goodwill. We are constantly exchanging something for something, and nothing comes free except the love of a father or mother, and in some cases, your own parents may despise you if they believe you are not living up to expectations financially.
The life of a hustling man
So no one truly loves a hustling man; most of the time, we have to give something in exchange for love and care, with the exception of rare occasions when we receive things we did not work for or deserve.
In reality, strangers can do you a one-time favor that you do not deserve and you will be eternally grateful.
Most of the reasons we remember the people who gave us our first jobs, first real opportunity to earn money, or a financial favor that changed our lives are because we are not used to them.
It could be someone who has prevented others from bullying you. In my first week of college, I had someone bully me, but some people came to my rescue, and these people became the closest to me, and should they ask for help tomorrow, I'm indebted to them even to half of my left leg, why? Because I was probably not used to receiving so many free favors in my life.
Betrayals
We're used to betrayals: a wife who is in for the money, a group of friends who wants to enjoy the good times, or a group of people who are just there to exchange favors.
Mind you, none of these things are inherently bad; they only become problematic when you go broke.
There's nothing wrong with having a wife who is in it for the money. Men are primarily natural providers and do not mind having people like this.
This is why you should never be poor, sick, or unable to provide. When you do, you'll begin to think of all the times when you've been foolish. You would wonder how you ended up with only fake friends, or how you forgot to save when the money was flowing.
You would be ashamed of yourself for wasting money on useless items. These regrets arise because you are now unable to provide; otherwise, most of the stupid financial decisions we make are simply ways to spice up life.
Every bad decision is rectifiable by only one thing:
...Money
There is nothing wrong with not saving, having fake friends, or wasting money; you simply need to ensure that you continue to make money.
This sounds very stupid, I know, especially since no one will knowingly stop themselves from making money, these conditions that causes catastrophic events like this are uncertain and does not come with any announcement.
So it makes sense for people to save when they have enough. Saving should occur when it is most comfortable, but most of the time we only remember to save when we do not have anything to save. This is where we begin to see life in its truest form, when we have had the opportunity to see it from the start.
Knife & Ice cream
Living without understanding reality is analogous to dipping a knife in ice cream, allowing it to soak up the ice cream before running it across our tongues to enjoy the sweet taste of the ice cream.
When the ice cream is completely gone and the knife is still running on the tongue, we realize, "Oh, I have been playing a dangerous game."
It is either you make it or nobody cares. Nobody will remember that you had to pay money for medical bills, which is why you are poor. The money is gone, and that's what everyone sees.
Nobody will understand that you gave in to pressure, which is why you are here. Nobody will care if you are killed; you are dead to them. It is why people post memes after saying "RIP" in another slide; it is all formality, and unless you make a genuine impact, you are nothing and no one cares.
So, what can you do?
Nothing.
Try as hard as you can; at the very least, you will attract a few fake friends who care. Even if they are not in it for the love, you can still call on them, but do not go broke or get sick. In everything you do, try not to lose relevance and to be able to provide a few favors here and there.
Don't let them know you're useless, they'll probably not pick up the phone when you call. As a struggling individual, I implore you to make better choices.
Do not spend $50 on an expensive steak; instead, take $5 and buy meat to make your own steak. Save that $45; there will come a time when you will need it to ask a fake friend for a favor. They'll not deny you that help, because you're 45$ rich.
Don't buy that hair of 200$, you might just be hit by a car tomorrow and need total spine replacement, keep 180$ in stables, and you may just be able to deserve the help of your friends or partner tomorrow.
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