I sent greetings from my end, to you all my precious people.
There is a tragedy unfolding in our generation, it is the quiet, painful death of destinies sacrificed on the altar of premature companionship. We have become a people obsessed with "finding the one" before we have even found "the self" or "the Sender."
If you enter a relationship without a sense of direction, you haven't found a partner; you have only found a distraction to help you forget that you are lost. Your spouse is not your savior; they are your co-laborer. But what are you laboring towards?
Let's consider few spiritual and strategic way for building a life that lasts:
1. The Law of Identity:
Before you say "I do" to a human being, you must settle the "Who am I?" question with your Creator. If you do not know who you are, you will inadvertently force your partner to become your identity. That is a burden no human was designed to carry. Partnership is the meeting of two whole individuals, not the joining of two halves searching for completion.
2. Vision is the Compass: (Habakkuk 2:2)
"Write the vision and make it plain..."
Purpose is the reason for your existence. Partnership is a structural support for that reason. When you prioritize a relationship over your assignment, you are building a roof before you have laid the foundation. A marriage without a shared or compatible vision is simply a high-stakes roommate agreement. You must know where you are going so you can recognize who is headed in the same direction.
3. The Principle of Agreement:
"Can two walk together, unless they are agreed? (Amos 3:3)
This agreement is not about your favorite colors or movies; it is an agreement of destination. Many people are in love but are headed in opposite directions. Love is a feeling, but alignment is a decision. Do not let your emotions negotiate away your calling. It is better to be single and focused on your mandate than to be "coupled" and paralyzed in your destiny.
4. The Weight of Contribution:
In the kingdom and in the global marketplace, value is the currency of influence. What do you bring to the table besides your need for affection? When you develop your gifts, refine your character, and build your capacity, you become a person of "stature." Partnership should be an addition to a life that is already impactful, not a desperate attempt to find meaning.
The verdict:
Stop looking for someone to "complete" you. Start looking for the version of yourself that God intended when He breathed life into you. When you are busy about your Father’s business, the right person will not just "show up," they will recognize the grace on your life because they are running a similar race.
Don't build a home on the shifting sands of loneliness. Build it on the rock of purpose.
Can I tell you?
Your destiny is too heavy to be carried alone, but it is too sacred to be entrusted to someone who doesn't know where you are going. Seek first the Kingdom, find your place in His blueprint, and watch how the right alignment finds you.
May you find the right people at the right time! Remain blessedly blessed.
It's your handsome friend John Petra you're reading from!
