Today's exciting prompt on surrogacy is quite interesting, and I'm sure a lot of people have their different perceptions about this.
I've never really seen a real surrogate mother. Maybe I have, but was probably not aware of it, but, I have read books about it, and I've seen so many movies about it. And from what I've gathered, I think it's a kind of business on its own, but just a little different from the normal businesses that we engage in.
Also, from the facts I've gathered about this, I've come to understand that being a surrogate mother isn't quite easy. The idea of carrying a pregnancy for months with the knowledge that after all the pain, this baby is not yours. But I've come to a conclusion that to be a surrogate mother, one would have to kill those emotions that might make you attached to the baby later on. And with all I've read, I wonder why people do it anyway.
Back to the main question at hand about surrogacy rights. Does it feel right for a surrogate mother to have a say in the affairs of the child, just because she's the biological Mom?
Well, to answer that, I'd say no.
I believe that before this business takes off_like I said earlier, to me, it's a form of business. So for this to happen, certain agreements has to be made, and when both parties agree to this, a contract is signed, and payment is made to the surrogate mother. And judging from the facts I got, the price for surrogacy is more than most people earn in a whole year. And no one would pay that kind of money, and still let another woman play Mom.
To be a surrogate mother, you have to be ready, not only in body, but in mind also. Can you be able to live with yourself when you see that child tomorrow? Will your emotions betray you the next day after the child is born?
Well, if you haven't thought about all of this, then surrogacy is not for you.
It's just like ghostwriting. A person is paid to write a book for another person. Though the writer may likely do all the hard work, once that book is finished, he or she loses right over that book. Ownership right is transfered to the employer, and the writer has no say on whatever the other person chooses to do with the book.
All that matters is that a transaction has been made, and everyone got what they wanted. After that, there's no connection or whatsoever again, unless another opportunity to do the same business presents itself.
This means that as a surrogate mother, it is just business, and unless it was included in the contract, which I doubt anyone would agree to, as it could be disastrous for the surrogate mother to be close to the child. Once the deal is done, the surrogate mother is expected to back off. She has no business with how the child's new family chooses to raise the child.
She can only hope and wish the child a good life, but in reality, the child is not her family. So, no, a surrogate mother should not have a say in the affairs of the child, not after receiving money in exchange for that same child.
